Why wont my husband have sex with me?

[teishatackett80]

I have been married to a man for 6 years, we have always had a great sex life, at least 2-3 times a week. Within the last 3 months we have had sex twice. Both times I've practically had to plead my case for sex. Now the other day I asked to have sex, and he of course once again "I'm to tired, or well have sex later" and I went into the bedroom about 40 mins later and found out he had been masterbating (he left proof on a towel bessides the bed.) What am I to think of this?Should I just give up and sentence myself to a sexless marriage? Help, I don't know what to do. I am almost in tears thinking about it.

[teko]

Sounds like he left the evidence for you to find? Is he trying to get you to leave?

[Judy246]

by the way....hold on to the tears. Become strong and confront him of your concerns. Communications is key, but if your six sense is telling you something is wrong...investiage it. Judy

[Judy246]

Ummm...something is defiantely wrong. He has cheating symptoms or is looking at porn on the internet. What's going on at work? I hate to say this, but take a look at his cell messages or phone directory for unusual symbols after a phone number. Something is up and its not with you and it's not good. Also, has he changed his appearance, wears cologne when he didn't before.  Something is not right and it smells like affair or porn....keep up informed.

[msniki412]

Well we all can't jump to the fact we think he is cheating. Either way, whatever it is you and him need to sit down and talk about it. Has anything in the last few months changed? Stress at work or anything eles? I mean fingers do point to the fact that he is doing something wrong, whether he's cheating or has some addiction to porn or anything else related to porn (strip clubs) it needs to be addressed.

[teko]

Affair was the first thing that popped into my head too. Definately something not right.

[mami1323]

I was thinking an affair as well but if you say it's definitely not that then maybe you did do your own investigating as well.  

[mslkpage]

Any chance he's having an affair? I'm wondering if he's emotionally attached to someone and feels like being with you is like cheating on her. Or maybe a new porn hobby? You're going to have to not let this go- don't take "I'm tired" as an excuse, but approach him calmly and tell him you're genuinely concerned about the relationship.

[teishatackett80]

I am sure hes not cheating on me, but at this point I'd probably feel better if he was, then at least i could explain what is going on..

[teishatackett80]

I ask him just about every time I've asked, All I hear is the same excuse, he's tired, not interesst, not now, maybe later, ill catch ya in the morning, doesnt feel like it.. doesnt have the energy, but he has the energy to take care of it himself..

[mami1323]

Hhhhmmm, well it's obviously not a physical problem.  Have you tried asking him why he's not interested in having sex?