advice on cheating :(

Question

So recently I found out my fiancé cheated on me while I'm on out state working for a month ... we been together for 3 years and he's with another girl for barely a month and she told me he likes her alot and want to have a baby with her ... she said he propose to her using my ring .... he said if she is pregnant he'll choose her and I found our I'm barely 8 weeks pregnant today :/ idk what to do or what to think ...... he still message me and stuff but nothing like intimate like before ... i dont know if I should keep the baby but I can't let the baby go , we wanted a baby since forever ... idk if he's just side tracking but it hurts so bad :(

kelleyproudmammytoobe · Answer

my mam went through 2 very tough marrages she is now devorced and brought all 4 of uz up on her own without any help off her parents not 1 single person and she is the best mam i could have ever asked for we have never wanted for anything cause we had her and all her love and me my sister and 2 brothers have a great life! so please take my advice they is plenty of womens doing it on there own a doing a pretty dam good job of it! you dont need a man trust me. keep your baby cause when you hold he/she in your arms u will never feel love like that again! take care sweetie and good luck xx

CHXSINGNOV · Answer

^^ I know plenty of single moms who do twice the job a dad could, just saying.

But for real, kick the scum to the curb; that's ridiculous what he's doing! Enjoy the next 32 or so weeks with your little one. I'm sure you'll make a great mom, and it will deff be worth it :)

Charrua33 · Answer

Kids need a mom and a dad. You could find another good man later on or you could give the baby for adoption. Think what's best for the baby.

TMMB · Answer

First, I would at least get his side of the story before just taking her word for it, but I have to say, her story does seem pretty damning; and if, in fact he has been cheating, and especially to the point where it is beyond just a one time mistake, but he  is actually making relationship promises to her, then you definitely need to get rid of him. I know that's probably not what you want to hear, but you need to find a way to end the relationship. I definitely think you should keep the baby, and co parent with him, or alternatively,  release the child for adoption, but please don't get an abortion. Just curious: how did he end up with your engagement ring?

lq95742 · Answer

Am I the only one who wouldn't keep the baby? This man is a complete *******, and you would be tied to him for the rest of your life. You need a clean break from this toxic person.

Yanez91 · Answer

Put this in your head. 
Baby comes first, husband 2nd family last n if hes a dip shyt then put him last on your list... Or erase him off. This a chance that was giving to you by God. A precious gift. This baby will help you grow in many ways. :)

Redd855 · Answer

Thats the same thing that happen to me ill be 4 months friday and I just completely blocked him on fb ig my phone everything I block him and hus famiky number I obviously kept my baby and I put that *** on child support he going to miss out on his childs life not me be strong move on and keep your baby your baby is your blessing from god good luck momma

jaloveslorelei · Answer

That first comment brought tears to my eyes, so true and sweet. Keep the baby, that's your baby! No need to deny that baby life because his Dad is a fool. Think of how much that will hurt to look back on. No one talks about how much termination hurts mom and baby. Baby suffers and and dies, and mom is stuck with a body that is mourning the loss of a child and doesn't know what to do with all the extra hormones of pregnancy. You can do this. I was just telling my 3 yo daughter, since the day she was born, our lives have never been the same. You'll never go a day without smiling or being so amazed by this little person. Run from that guy, you will find someone that deserves you. Once a cheater always a cheater, you deserve better.

kriscalli · Answer

I think you should keep it... but also know he will regret his choices. He will try to come back. Just keep in mind you are too good for a man who would not only cheat on you after three years but issuch ******* he used your ring for someone else.You deserve better and you'll find better. I promise I've been through something similar.I wish you and your baby love and luck! <3

CutieMommy2be · Answer

First i want to say WHAT A *******!! Keep your baby move on! You and the baby deserve better!

elijahsmommy11615 · Answer

I kind of had the same thing happen... im now almost 20 weeks and happy i kept it you will be so happy with your baby im going through the daddy battle... if you want to talk im here i kinda know what your going through

super_nerdy_mommy · Answer

I second the "keep the baby. He's a dope." This baby is a sweet little gift and he is a complete twit. If that's the kind of guy he is, you're better off being happy with your little one than having a cheating git around. Besides, he'll likely just do the same thing to her. Certainly don't let his idiocy get between you and a baby you've been wanting. :)

paigenoahbragg · Answer

I agree with her completely keep the baby

haleyblossom · Answer

You could still keep the baby and figure out a way to Co parent with him or just collect child support from him

ash060115 · Answer

I agree keep the baby :) he's a dope

kelleyproudmammytoobe · Answer

girl keep your baby and get rid of that scumbag this baby will be the making of you his loss your gain!! you dont need him it this will be the best 40 weeks of your life watching and feeling your baby grow inside you have a good long think. but i say keep baby :) good luck