Aa
bun in the oven
I am turning 21 and have a baby on the way
this is no laghing matter let me tell you
abortion is out of the question..and i dont have a problem with that...the problem is money
she has no income..currently schooling..im currently in university..awaiting my time to study abroad coming this summer
im leaving for europe to persue an athletic dream (about 2 months before shes due.
heres the problem ..she wants me to give up something i've worked for my whole life..knowing its going to be extremtly tough on her alone.
at the same time i feel guilty thus debating a change in plans.
our relationship is heading down dramaticly spirtually..and if you did the math...you know we are not sexually active.
.shes developing a passionate Hate towards me..assuming im never gonna return
its coome down to if i leave ...were finished...and i dont want this..thus torn between the life with her here...or a career iv'e dreamed about for decades.
my question----what would you do.?
this is no laghing matter let me tell you
abortion is out of the question..and i dont have a problem with that...the problem is money
she has no income..currently schooling..im currently in university..awaiting my time to study abroad coming this summer
im leaving for europe to persue an athletic dream (about 2 months before shes due.
heres the problem ..she wants me to give up something i've worked for my whole life..knowing its going to be extremtly tough on her alone.
at the same time i feel guilty thus debating a change in plans.
our relationship is heading down dramaticly spirtually..and if you did the math...you know we are not sexually active.
.shes developing a passionate Hate towards me..assuming im never gonna return
its coome down to if i leave ...were finished...and i dont want this..thus torn between the life with her here...or a career iv'e dreamed about for decades.
my question----what would you do.?
obviously i dont want to miss the birth...
im going to assumm that ya'll are mothers who literally live for their children.
what about a perspective from a dude.
im going to assumm that ya'll are mothers who literally live for their children.
what about a perspective from a dude.
thank you rock rose
we did use a condom but no birth control..which i guess was a mistake
nono i mean a blessing.
i do ponder the idea of spending the rest of my life with her..if i can convince her to pull through this obstacle...
truthfullly...i think she knows i dont want to lose her and is playin the leave but dont come back game...tryin to get me to stay and jus work
our families are both below middle class and i just dont see how even if i were to stay how it woulld be better financially..emotionally yes..but not financially
we both lost our virginities to each other...
i am committed to her...
marriage not any time soon though,,thats another whole issue which will
inevtibly set us back financially
but sure .....we've discussed this..then again shes 20 im 21
we are too young to know exactly if were going to be togeather forever
if things worked out overseas...daym straight i would send for her to come if she was commited to me
so im still confuses man...i dont want to be ******* of a man
but sometimes i think......if she really loved me wouldn't she understand im tying to not only do this for me..but her as well
we did use a condom but no birth control..which i guess was a mistake
nono i mean a blessing.
i do ponder the idea of spending the rest of my life with her..if i can convince her to pull through this obstacle...
truthfullly...i think she knows i dont want to lose her and is playin the leave but dont come back game...tryin to get me to stay and jus work
our families are both below middle class and i just dont see how even if i were to stay how it woulld be better financially..emotionally yes..but not financially
we both lost our virginities to each other...
i am committed to her...
marriage not any time soon though,,thats another whole issue which will
inevtibly set us back financially
but sure .....we've discussed this..then again shes 20 im 21
we are too young to know exactly if were going to be togeather forever
if things worked out overseas...daym straight i would send for her to come if she was commited to me
so im still confuses man...i dont want to be ******* of a man
but sometimes i think......if she really loved me wouldn't she understand im tying to not only do this for me..but her as well
yea but see my family is ghetto
im their ticket out of this less then fortunate life they have liver for years
they are decent hard working people...that always tell me she has her family plus mine for support..for one year only...
she knows all of this
she wants to be the number one prioroty and mayb she is
but my family has been hoping this would come through for years
and no if i dont go i wont graduate period...theres new way -ive looked at every option
i would hafta work a **** job untill i could save up money to pay for school all over again...
im their ticket out of this less then fortunate life they have liver for years
they are decent hard working people...that always tell me she has her family plus mine for support..for one year only...
she knows all of this
she wants to be the number one prioroty and mayb she is
but my family has been hoping this would come through for years
and no if i dont go i wont graduate period...theres new way -ive looked at every option
i would hafta work a **** job untill i could save up money to pay for school all over again...
giving up a kid for adoption..are you kiddin me? thats out of question
we are not drug atticts..thats so wrong
we are not drug atticts..thats so wrong
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