why do i feel insecure

[Imperfect275]

Ok my husband and i just got married about a month ago . but when we were living together he had left me for some girl he works with..he realized shes not what he wanted and came back after about 2 wks. We have been living with eachother for 4 yrs already..and the women still works at the same job..so y do i feel insecure everytime i see her trying to act all sexy in front of all the guys? I wonder if he still finds her attractive cause i see him look her way at times.

[specialmom]

Hi there. Ugh, that would definitely cause doubt if someone has left you even if briefly for another woman while you were living together.  AND, he still interacts with her.  

What about talking to him and asking him to see if there are any other places he could work?  

Have you recently begun to feel insecure again?  Any reason to doubt him after all this time?  Does he know that you still worry about this?

PS:  I am not a fan of the 'flashy' woman.  Oh, I know the type and they are often just seeking attention because of their OWN insecurities.   So, try not to worry about her.  he had his time with her and he found there wasn't much beyond the flashy exterior.  He shouldn't have strayed but you also don't need to feel intimidated by her either.  

good luck

[Londres70]

I agree with Life.  

It's one thing to look at attractive women; that's happens, however, your husband or then fiancé, went beyond that......he actually left you for one.

I don't chastize these women because they look and act a certain way because they haven't made any VOWS to you, however, your husband did.  There are a lot of tempting things and situations placed before us on a daily basis, however, the choice is ALWAYS ours whether to cave in or not.

You probably should have sought couples' therapy PRIOR to marriage because you still have unresolved issues.  In fact, therapy would still be beneficial now.

[Life360_Dave]

Well hun i cant blame you for feeling this way, anyone would. So he was living with you and decided to try another girl and she was not what he wanted so he moved back in with you. I feel the real issue is when will he do it again. Only he knows but with the shortness of life i surly would find someone who knows they want you.

[gemme26]

  wow you got to trust him dont keep dwelling on what he did it is you he wanted to marrie and her  trying to act all sexy  well dont forget he is a man he might look at her doing that but who is he comeing home too you

[vicki595]

Well...everyone looks at attractive people(if she is) but he married YOU, right?  If he hasn't given you a good reason to feel like you do then try to calm down and ignore his looking in her direction.

You describe a type of woman that's tough to like and who probably behaves this way for attention. I feel sorry for her because she has to do that...

Listen, this is still a honeymoon period for you two so forget about her and spoil him! You may be surprised at how he responds...and I would suggest the same for him...spoil each other!