help me please asap!!

[michealdean14]

i like this girl, she says she likes me, but also says that she likes another guy as well. This other guy i have to admit is better looking than me, and i am scared that she will choose this guy instead of me. I cant stop myself continually talking to her, I tried stopping talking to her, but i cant do it. I lie all the time to everyone, but especially to girls in order for them to like me more. She has messed me around in the past, and i think she knows she can take advantage of the fact that i usually initiate all the conversations. I take girls too seriously, it takes over all other aspects of my life, it has ruined my chances of good grades in my A levels. I know i wont be able to cut her out of my life. I would have to admit i am insecure i haven't had that much experience with girls, and i want to be able to continue talking to girls, but i want to be able to take it less seriously. I think i have a lot too offer people, but i am desperate to be loved and insecure that people dont like that i end up making a fool of myself, or end up being nasty. I have in the past been insulted for the way I look.
I am aware that this sounds pathetic, but it isn't easy to admit things like this, i want answers, please anyone...what do i do

[penswriter]

how old are you?

lying to girls is NOT good. if my hubby had lied to me while we were dating...we wouldn't be married right now. that is one thing a lot of women will not tolerate. stop lying first off.

if she likes this other guy too than just wait for her to decide or make the decision for her and move on. those are your only options. don't act desperate. that is an ENORMOUS turn off. desperation and clingyness can make a girl go running for the hills. just relax and try to be yourself. if a girl doesn't like you for who you are than she's not worth it. with my hubby i can be myself and not care. he doesn't care if i sit around in my jammies with no makeup and my hair all messy in a pony tail. just like i don't care if he sits around in sweats, unshaven, making his obnoxious anal noises (he still finds farting hilarious at the age of 25)

you sound REALLY young (i'd venture to guess still in high school) if you are don't worry...even if you're not that young....don't worry. you don't need a g/f to make you happy. hang out with friends, focus on school (or work if you're older) and just enjoy being who you are. surround yourself with people who do appreciate you whether that is one friend, ten friends or your parents. having the positive support of even one person is better than being someone else to please another.

[RockRose]

My guess,  Michael Dean,  is that you're 14.  ;D

I wouldn't take a million bucks,  really,  to be 14 again.  

This too, shall pass.  Above all,  try to keep your grades up although it's difficult to concentrate on that now,  and also try to maintain friendships with guys.  When this horrible hormone storm blows through,  those two things will get you by.  Success in school,  and nice friends.

[specialmom]

Hi!  One of the things that girls really like is a confident guy.  How do you get confident?  Well, you look at the things in your life and you focas on them.  Any passions like music, art, sports, computers, writing, etc.  And you get good at them.  Work on being a good student.  Work on being a good friend to your buddies.  Be the kind of person that has his own interests and takes care of himself.  That is very attractive to girls.  Many women (later on) are very attracted to an ambitious man.  Be ambitious in life.  Girls will follow---------  I swear.  When we try to hard, it sends the wrong signals.  As far as the girl in question, time will tell if she will be your girlfriend.  Don't lie to get her, don't spend all of your time thinking about her, fight that desperate feeling.  What will be will be.  Work on you and a girl will like you for it.  good luck!!