is she lying about being pregnant?

[bcraven]

Okay first off, I know I was very stupid for this...I went to a party, got drunk had unprotected sex with a girl I barely met that night, who was a friend of my best friend. I barely met her and after that night, she kept talking to me like I was the one for her, and so on and so forth, claiming that she believes that I am meant to spend the rest of my life with her. I talked with my best friend, who also has had sex with her(which I am alienated by, because now I feel disgust), he has had protected sex with her multiple times. It is confirmed she is on birth control, she already has a kid. My best friend would tell me that she is a very crazy girl, like after he was done having sex with her, she would ask to keep the condom and stuff like that. She doesn't get out at all, she has no job, no car, and hardly any friends. So me being freaked out by her sending messages and pictures(very dirty pictures of her), and also the way she was talking to me, I completely started ignoring her as was what I believe would be for the better, not only that but even my best friend recommended it, saying she is a very crazy girl, and he would ignore her periodically because of that. He only kept a friendship with her because he felt sorry for her, thus ended up having protected sex a couple of times with her as well. Well throughout the whole time I have been ignoring her, she sends me a text message today, saying she is tired of trying to be friends with me, and that it was obvious that I want nothing to do with her, then she says, "by the way, I'm pregnant!". She said a few days ago, she was like, "I haven't had my monthly thing, so I took a test and bam!". So now I'm freaking out and wondering what kind of advice anyone can give on a situation like this, as for one, if it is true I will step up to the plate and be a father even though I am not ready to be, I won't stand and let a kid grow up without a father. This party event happened on September 11th last month, and I just received the text message today October 15th. So now I'm freaking out, any advice anyone, please any help would be greatly appreciated?

[bcraven]

Oh and one more thing I would really like to try and avoid her, because now I do have a girlfriend, and I don't think it would be such a good idea me going over to her place, plus she isn't really my friend and nor do I really want to associate with a lunatic. If I have to I will do what it takes to find out for sure she is/isn't pregnant. I just want to resolve this so I can get on with my life, because I'm freaking out right now.

[netgal1]

Well this is a little tricky,why would she say she is pregnant to you, by the sounds of things, it could be any other guys, not necessarily you, was she drunk, She seems to be a little immature about this , seems like she wants attention and some girls or women are like that. I suggest you get to the bottom of this, possibly get a paternity test on this. Good luck Sandy

[heatherlynn22]

if she is indeed pregnant demand to see u/s (they should have her name and date on the upper corner), ask her to take a test while you're there, offer to go to her ob appointments with her. IF there is a baby and once it is born GET A PATERNITY TEST!!!! DO NOT SIGN ANY PAPERS UNTIL THEN!!!

she could be lying but then again she may not be. birth control is NOT 100% effective. my brother has learned this the hard way. his 17 yr old g/f who was on the nuvaring is now 15 weeks pregnant.

[jojo24]

I agree with heatherlynn.  Demand that she take a pregnancy test while you are there and go to the doc with her.  If indeed there is a baby wait until the baby is born and a paternity test is done before you claim it.  If she has been sleeping with you and your friends, she's probably been sleeping with other guys as well.  However, you did have unprotected sex with her so there is a chance it's your baby if she is in fact pregnant.  I don't want to give you a lecture or anything, but next time be more careful.  You don't just run the risk of getting a girl pregnant when you have unprotected sex, you can also get STDs and there are some that can't be cured.  I'm sure you know that.  Best of luck.
Jojo

[Judy246]

You need to grow up and learn from this experience to think with the head on your shoulder and not the one betwee your legs. I read these type of post and to be honest with you...it make me sick. There is irresponsible inmature, irresponsible behavior and the one who pays is and innocent, defenseless baby. This girl has slept with so many guys, who knows who this baby belongs too and she just might be saying that to get your attention. The only way to know is if she decides to have the baby to have a DNA. So, tell her you were never interested in a committed, exclusive relationship with her and that since she is permiscus that you would like to be one of many to have a DNA test first, before you say anything or make any decision in regards to her stated pregnancy.

I hope you learn a lesson for this and stay out of trouble....oh, make sure to get tested for STD & HIV.  Judy

[jenkaye21]

Since every sexual encounter has the potential to end in pregnancy, ask yourself *before*hand:  Would i want to be with/deal with this person for the next 18 years??  Judy is right, of course, it is the children who result from these encounters who suffer.
I really do hope things turn out well for you and that you learn from this experience.

[jo929]

Yes you did a stupid thing, and running her down will not help, you might even have the aid virus, but demand a paternity test and for petes sake stay away from her until you know, and do not go to anymore wild parties what does it take to make someone aware od the dangers of unprotected sex, if you have to become a father of an unbalanced child you will have to support it i feel no sympathy for you or her  jo