legal advice please

[Lmw_1981]

My twelve year old son asked my girlfriends 5 year old son to preform oral on him and in return he would preform oral as well. This had happened some time in November 2014, we found out this had happened in June 2015 and I was labeled a bad father, it made me and my girlfriend split up and I am not allowed to be around her children according to the courts and the children's father's request. Can I fight this? Me and my girlfriend want to stay together. please any help would be great

[Chima7]

After reading the replies here, it looks like what everyone is pretty much saying is that

1) This is not a legal help website so the chances of you actually finding someone who knows the law is pretty much slim to none. If you want legal help you're going to have to find a website that isn't about health and relationships like MedHelp.

2) Your main focus and first priority in this mess should be your kid (and should always be, at least until the kid turns 18), and the relationship with your girlfriend really needs to be last on your list until you figure out what's going on with your kid. If he's ok and there's nothing wrong, then that's awesome. But your kid and his problems need to come first before you consider any kind of relationship. And your girlfriend also needs to focus on her kid, too instead of worrying about her relationship with you right now.

[Nighthawk61]

I also would do the same as the father and make it impossible for your son to be near my 5 year old.

As a mother, I would understand that it would be quite impossible to continue on with a relationship with you as having your son around my kids would be wrong.

Not able to speak to the legalities, as not a lawyer.

Wanting to continue the relationship would be a reason why your parenting skills would be in question. I would back off and concentrate of getting your son into therapy for his own good. My son would be my priority right now, and into the future as it seems there may be deeper problems to deal with.

[Londres70]

Sounds like the father is protecting his child and I would do the same.

[Londres70]

Ditto Vance.

I suggest you consult a lawyer as seeking legal advice here isn't prudent.  We aren't lawyers and we aren't privy to all the facts about the case.

If this happened then your son's issues need to be address vs. focusing on salvaging a gf/bf relationship.  

And even if there wasn't any proof or it was proven to be untrue I would be cringing a child would be making these kinds of things up as this isn't any innocent white lie.

I am not sure how a relationship could survive this whether it's true or not.  

Again, consult a lawyer.

[Lmw_1981]

it was just a question. you didn't have to say anything.  I'm sorry if you don't think it's prudent

[caregiver222]

I might add that you really have no idea that this event actually took place, regardless of the statements made by the children.

[Vance2335]

I would be more concerned for your son and getting him some counceling than a girlfriend

[Lmw_1981]

So far it's a interm parenting order while the judge waits for the reports from the police and social. I'm not sure what will happen after that.

[Lmw_1981]

Ok.. thank you very much for this.

[caregiver222]

You have a difficult situation. Square one is to get hold of all transcripts and documents related to the case. Suprise. They probably won't give them to you. They will be "sequestered" because of the age of the individuals. You will need an attorney to submit a subpoenas duces tecum, (request for documents) and then, probably will deny this and the request submitted again to a higher court. If they do they will only allow the attorney to view them alone and not make copies. There are several missing pieces here and you have no idea what statements were made against you.