something I wanted to share.

[ladyrhea4]

Did you ever notice that some people seem to be in a perpetual state of apology?

“I’m sorry I didn’t show up on time.”
“I’m sorry I didn’t call.”
“I’m sorry I didn’t get that done.”

This type of communication typically comes from individuals who are in the habit of making excuses for their actions. They know that they have a commitment they haven’t met, and, instead of facing the music, they choose to say “I’m sorry” to skirt the issue.

Think about how you feel when you hear this merry-go-round of excuses.

During this ride, on the way up there is a feeling that the person has noticed their poor behavior and will make changes; the way down, however, quickly follows -- when you realize no change is coming. This is a ride that no one wants to buy a ticket to get on!

“I’m sorry I didn’t show up on time.” Choose to be punctual.
“I’m sorry I didn’t call.” Make the phone call.
“I’m sorry I didn’t get that done.” Choose to do it.

Remember, the quality of our life is in direct proportion to the choices that we make and how we act on them. Part of building healthy self-esteem is to make promises that you will keep.

When you over-promise and under-deliver, you are negatively affected: you suffer a feeling of low self-confidence and lack of control. Furthermore, the person on the receiving end of your excuse is left doubting your word and loses confidence in your ability to perform.

[pegatha1981]

Thanx..i needed that..especially for something i'm currently dealing with. Good food for thought and something that looses value when thrown out there so casually.

[ladyrhea4]

Don't be sorry for the long Comment, I myself think this is a pretty cool topic and hit the nail on the head with me when I'm saying Sorry allot it is because I'm having Low Self Esteem. I kind of go threw stages of it. But I find that this whole topic is a good one. The whole self a esteem thing is either a Letter to you or another post....lol

Talk at you soon Hope you have a Great Day..xoxo Rhea

[29sillygirl]

Interesting topic.  One I've noticed in myself and others. It pisses me off when a neighbor (mentally challenged) says she is sorry for the most inane things.  I have confronted her in a nice way.  

I thing people who apologize a lot fall in two categorys: those w/ low self esteem or those who are being consciously or unconsciously manipulative.

Thanks for bringing up an interesting verbal tic....which we can change:).  Sorry for the long comment..LOL

[x89rt]

I've been on both sides of this, but mostly the bad one. I'd like to say it's because I'm bipolar but I know for a fact that some of it was me.

[ladyrhea4]

I find I'm learning all the time and sometimes I come across something that really hits home I'm kind of on both sides of this. But You know I'm still learning and changing..thanks for reading it, its nice to have someone comment back
xxooox Rhea

[x89rt]

I know first hand how true this is...