what to do?

[jayling]

ok i'm 21 years old with one kid me and the dad have had our ups and downs, but this year in march we took a break due to, to cheating now i start dating this guy i knew sometime now but he is menipulater now the father of my son want to start over and i do love him but i love my new boyfriend also but i don't tell me and my boyfriend are ment to be he too mentailly abusive and i don't know how to leave him without be scared? what should i do?

[TTinKKerBBell]

So, You seem to agree with what I suggested a month ago but You were not forthcoming this time on where You are or what is going on now.  It sounds like You may still be with the BoyFriend?  Is that correct?
If so,
You are the ONLY one who has the Power to change this,
and You DO,
You Really, Really DO have the Power to change Your life.  

Do You have Family or Friends who will help You?
and if not, there are Women's Shelters for You and Your Child.  They will protect You and help You get on Your feet.

Don't delay (tolerate) this anymore!!  I would only ask You, what are You waiting for anyway??  This situation isn't going to change (improve) unless YOU change it.  WE are responsible for our OWN Happiness and Well Being but We have an ADDED Responsibility for those things when We have a Child.  It's no longer just about US.  

We have been "conditioned" to think We are "helpless", ("damsels in distress") but We are NOT.  We Really DO Have Power To Take Charge Of Our Own Lives -  We Really CAN Decide What We Will and Will NOT Take.  We Just Have To DO It!!  I'm not suggesting that it isn't hard, I know from my Own experience that it IS hard - but having "been there, done that" ONE of the (many) things I learned is:

When I did the thing I feared the most, what I lost was my fear!!

and when I saw that, I grew Stronger. I felt more SelfEsteem, I had more Confidence in MySelf - I BELIEVED in MySelf, cuz I know that I am a Good Person and I that I "deserve" GoodNess in return, - AND,  that it was MY Responsibility to look for that GoodNess in Others, if THAT is what I wanted in My Life,  and then I came to realize:  Love is a CHOICE -  It's on US to "CHOOSE" what (who) is Good, what (who) is Bad.  I realized that God Created Dating So That A Woman Could Discover The Bad News About A Man BEFORE She Gets Involved With Him, Not AFTER.
So - FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART, I BELIEVE, I TRUELY, TRUELY BELIEVE, THAT YOU DO HAVE CHOICES HERE!!  AND I HOPE AND I PRAY THAT YOU CHOOSE THE GOOD - THE RIGHT - PATH FOR YOU AND YOUR CHILD!!
I'm here for You if You want further discussion.
Good Luck in Your Choices!!

[jayling]

he did and your right it shouldnt hurt and if does not for this long!

[Life360_Dave]

If your in fear of leaving him because of physical harm then you need to have this documented. Go to your local police and talk to them and if this is a local area they might have a talk to him but i think a good idea for him to know that others are aware of this.

[TTinKKerBBell]

Love is a CHOICE and it seems You don't CHOOSE wisely.  Perhaps You should go for therapy to understand why You CHOOSE Partners that are not good for You.  Love is NOT supposed to hurt or feel bad!!

(who did the cheating, You or Him?)