strange commitement

[poo210]

my boyfriend says i will only marry you if you will agree for not having children in life, and if you concieve i will suciede

[29sillygirl]

Dump him.  That suicide remark is classic passive aggressive behavior...and won't stop unless he recognizes what he is doing ...therapy is probably not in his mindset...

Londres said it.

Keep posting...but really think about our responses...his behavior is unacceptable to the max!

[shell921]

all good advice you have gotten. londres especially nailed it--if this man is dictating things like this to you now how is it ever going to get better after you marry? he's a controlling, unreasonable, manipulative person and it will just get worse. men mostly do not change.

[RainLover71]

Tell your boyfriend to seek professional mental help.

[Londres70]

If he is this extreme in his thinking I would HIGHLY recommend thinking about who you are involved with and should you be marrying him.  

Sounds like he gives unreasonable/irrational demands and requests.  

Do you really want this for yourself?

[Kayannaboo]

WTF? Are you sure you want to marry him? Its not only the fact that he doesn't want kids but its the extreme measures you are going to constantly have to take to NOT get preggers....FOR YOUR HUSBAND so that he doesn't commit suicide!

If you want kids or you are not bothered by the thought of having children, you will be unhappy. You may see friends or even strangers with their children or pregnant, and feel like something is lacking. Then you are going to feel trapped by your commitment and feel resentment towards him. That will make your married life, miserable.

I am not saying, "do not marry him" that is not my place. I am saying, think long and hard about what you are getting yourself into?

Anna

[TTinKKerBBell]

This sounds bizarre to me (suicide??), but maybe He's trying to impress on You how DETERMINED He is to not have Children.  This is Very Important!! Children are an 18+ year committment (being a Parent never ends - and We wouldn't want it to - GrandParenting follows and that is a Joy You won't believe!!).  The "NO" carries the weight here in my opinion.  It wouldn't be Wise to make a Baby with SomeOne who does not want to be a Parent.
You need to find a BoyFriend who wants Children - and Your current BoyFriend needs a GirlFriend who is unable to conceive OR He should take care of His Own Business - cuz when there's sex there is ALWAYS a Pregnancy risk.  Even "the pill" has a 1% failure rate.  I would hope that if He's determined not to have Children He would have a Va sec tomy - after all, this is 2012 - in today's world a Man should be responsible for His own Sperm, if He doesn't want Children HE should make certain it won't happen.  I would caution You not to have sex with Someone who does not want Children but has viable sperm.

[specialmom]

Huh? He said he'd kill himself if you get pregnant?  Big statement.  He must really want to convey to you that he doesn't want kids.

Do you want kids?