So... I met this guy. He's a friend of a friend. Very sweet. But... I'm a little conflicted.
I'm not...looking for a relationship. I would easily welcome one, of course, if someone was interested. But I'm not the kind of person who persues people to get a relationship out of them. I'm not looking for anything...or at least, I wasn't before. I didn't think I was. It was more a thing in the back of my mind. I chose to be single and I originally intended to stay that way.
Then I met Bryan.
He's 18, really nice. We're very similar, about the way we view the world, about our veiws of the planet and things like that. We have a lot of the same interests in art, music, dance, those kinds of things. He's a very good listener, which I love. He talks about himself openly, but not in that narcassistic way that a lot of teenaged boys tend to talk, especially when they're tyring to persue a person. And the way he started talking to me was very cute---he did tis secret admirer thing on a website we're both part of, private messaging me and stuff like that, and then yesterday he finally was like "I'm your admirer".
He talks about me a lot. He wants to know things about me, deeper things beyond "What's your favorite color" and all that awkward stuf. He's not superficial. and he's very...real. I think that's one of the reasons I am so interested in him, he's not afraid or ashamed of who he is, which I find very cute. And he's sensative, sensative about himself and the world around him. He's worldly the way that I am. And that is somehting I have never found in any guy near my age so far.
Bryan isn't possessive, but he's the kind of guy who has guts. He's not afraid to be that old-fashioned guy who respects women, but at the same time takes the responsibility of comitment. For example, he says things like "I wanna make you mine" and that kind of thing. And i like that. I like strong guys who know where they stand. He's shy, quiet, and sweet, but masculine, and that's what i've been looking for. There are guys who get intimidated by my life ambitions and the way I am, the maturity and eccentricity I have by nature, but he isn't. He holds his ground and that, to me, is very attractive. I really do like it.
Now, the problem is...the age. Because I'm not 17 yet (I will be in less than a month) and he's 18, that worries me a little bit. He's in college. We talk, but we live far apart, and so we wouldn't really see each other until I'm out of high school and I can travel over school breaks and stuff like that. The other thing is I literally don't know how to react to this kind of attention. He's so flattering and sweet. He's always complimenting me, asking me about my day, just these gentlemanly things that, honestly, I've always been thinking about when I think of what I want in a guy. And now that I've found someone like that, i don't know what to do or how to go about it. i guess i don't want to disappoint him and make him think that I'm not... I don't even know.
He said he's had a crush on me for a while (thanks to my firend...) and he asked me out. But this is where I get confused, cuz if we live so far apart and our "contact" is Skyping and emails, are we really together? Because that doesn't seem like we'd be "together" to me. And then what, if we would meet again one day (he was visiting, that's how we met the first time and how i've seem him a few times since), all of the sudden we're "togehter"? It's just weird to me. But I don't want to stop talking to him because of how he is. His nature is what I was looking for and now... pfft.
If anyone can give me advice, that'd be great.
thanks.