I'm a 29yo male who has many issues with having a relationship. One of the main issues is that i'm physically attracted to men, and have 'experimented' with a male friend during my school days, and thoroughly enjoyed it. But i'm not interested in having a relationship of any sort with them. When i hit puberty, and hormones consumed me, i was sexually attracted to girls and i remember going to a school disco and staring at a girl in my year, thinking she was beautiful.
- I haven't had a relationship with anyone since high school. I do, however get on great with women and often are quite popular with them. I guess you could say i'm emotionally attracted to them, i can empathise with them and talk to them for hours and as such, can develop a close connection with them, but it never feels like a sexual attraction? I actually find it hard to connect with most men, often finding them arrogant and egotistical.
- When i'm shown interest from other people, i generally get overwhelmed, turned off and uninterested. I'm not sure i even like the idea of sex and haven't engaged in it yet. Is it normal to not even be interested in sex??
- I don't like personal close contact with others i.e kissing, hugging, holding hands. I find it invades my personal space and that automatically makes me feel tense and uncomfortable. But i realise if it was with someone i was attracted to, it wouldn't be a problem would it? Could this go with above for sex??
- I masturbate to male porn and feel that fulfils my sexual needs.
- I'm currently seeing a woman i've known for a few years and she has all of the attributes i'm looking for in a woman. I feel a great connection with her and enjoy her company when going out, in fact, i've never felt so comfortable around another woman, i can be myself. We are on the verge of having a proper relationship, and i'm getting quite anxious about it. Trouble is, i don't feel any sexual attraction to her. The next day after seeing her, i fall into the routine of everyday life and feel like i don't want to make an effort to contact her for a while, which brings me to my next point...
- I feel like i'm too independent, i don't feel like i need to care for anyone, just continue with everyday life, doing what i want to do, when i want to do it. I thought by this age, i would be over that. Am i too set in my ways?? I'm a quiet kinda guy and can't really handle too many commitments at one time. I do like to be in control of what i take on etc. I would consider myself to be very tense and sensitive, but try not to appear that way on the surface.
- I desperately want the house and the children one day (i have nieces and nephews). But how do i get there??
Thankyou for taking the time to read through, I'm sorry it is a long post, but i'd like to get some feedback or advice as i need to know whether to take this relationship to the next level or whether i need to seek some help. THANKYOU in advance!