risk of syphilis

[sillyboy84]

Hi Doctors, two weeks ago I got drunk and made a silly mistake I meet a man this was my first time doing something like this, I was so drunk I could not get hard as he sucked me off I then sucked him off for 30 seconds (he was hard) recently I have a clear pimple on my lower lip, could this be a chancer sore my anxiety is high as I am in a relationship.  I did not notice any sores on he's penis but I was so drunk maybe I missed them. What are the chances of syphilis.? Thanks in advance

[auntiejessi]

There is a chance of getting syphilis from giving or receiving oral sex. The sore would appear at the site where the bacteria enters your body, and that's not usually on your lip - it's usually inside the mouth.

Syphilis isn't that common in most places. I see on your profile that you're in Ireland. In 2021, there were about 800 cases of syphilis in Ireland. (https://outbreaknewstoday.com/ireland-reports-significant-syphilis-increase-in-2021/)

How long have you had the sore? The earliest a syphilis sore would appear is 10 days.

Your sore may be a pimple, or perhaps a herpes sore, but the only way to know is to let a doctor check you out.

[sillyboy84]

thanks for the reply, the pimple came and went and is now back again, the encounter was two weeks ago today, now the tip of my tongue seems sore

[auntiejessi]

That doesn't sound like syphilis - the sore would last at least a few weeks and wouldn't appear nearly that early, or herpes.

If you're concerned, get it checked by a doctor.

[sillyboy84]

thanks on closure expection of my mouth I have a with spot to the side of the back of my throat I have an appointment with the doctor but not till 7 days I am very worried and scared

[auntiejessi]

Is there an urgent care or walk in clinic you can go to and get your throat looked at before 7 days have passed? Does your doctor know you think you have syphilis?

Try not to panic. The chances that this is syphilis is very low.

[sillyboy84]

no the  services where I am from are very poor at the moment. The small white dot is on the wall of my throat near my uvula. I really appreciate you helping me.

[auntiejessi]

A small white dot is not a syphilis sore. Have you googled chancre sores? They are round, red, open sores. I don't know what the white dot is, but it's not syphilis.

I'm not sure why you are so freaked about this, but take a deep breath and try not to panic. If you went outside a relationship or something, try to remember that guilt does not equal risk.

[sillyboy84]

I hate myself after being unfaithful, the guilt is high, I've read online that it can be a white spot/pimple

[auntiejessi]

It might start looking as a pimple, but will then turn into an open sore.

Again, if you are concerned, get it checked out.

Your guilt being high doesn't mean your risk is high. In all of Ireland last year, there were only about 800 syphilis infections. There are 5 million people in Ireland. That means that .016% of people who live in Ireland had syphilis last year. Chances are really, really, really good that your partner doesn't have syphilis.

If you need to, talk to a therapist. You may have done something you regret, but you need to find a way to work through it. Obsessing over STDs isn't a way to do that.

[sillyboy84]

Thanks

[auntiejessi]

You're welcome. :)