Oral Issues or pitiful person?

[8bitz]

I never thought I would actually get online to pose this issue I have, but it's bothered me for far too long.

I'm a male, 28 years old, and have never performed oral sex on a girl, nor do I like getting it. I don't find it "degrading" on either end, I know there are many people who love it. I don't know why it doesn't do anything for me, but I do not enjoy it compared to regular intercourse. As far as performing it, I just find it disgusting on several levels. I've done janitorial work for a long time, so i'm used to cleaning up things that come from the woman. Even that aside, the idea of the smell/taste in my mouth disturbs me so much that even using food stuffs doesn't change my mind in the least. It's just what i'd want to do; try to be pleasing and throw up :(

Finally, performance. I'm asking for insights on my oral issue because I've been told more than once in my life that i'm not really any good in bed, and I certainly believe it. It's like I physically lose interest if I get engaged in more than like 10 seconds of foreplay (going limp). Also, some things, positions or actions that are slow or don't rub my penis in a certain way cause me to, outside of my control, physically lose interest again (going limp). I've had plenty of opportunity to practice things in this regard and have kind of accepted that i'm never going to be good in bed. So, this leads me here and the subject of oral. I've been told from the viewpoints of friends i've known over the years that oral is the savior of those of us who aren't otherwise good at pleasing a woman and have poor performance in bed.

If this true, yet i'm so afraid and/or disgusted by the thought of doing it, what do I do? Maybe how to otherwise please my partner without going limp is another topic all together. The unfortunate thing is; i'm the type that would truly love to know my partner is pleased BEFORE myself (in other words, putting her before me). I can't stress enough though, nothing has ever brought me anywhere near performing oral. Period, the end. Just coming here is the closest step i've ever taken to even considering it seriously.

Any insights, suggestions, bashes etc are welcome. Thank you all.

[kennimae92]

NOHARD maybe when you can correctly form a sentence I will debate with you what makes a real man.

8biitz I dont know it might be my crazy pregnancy hormones that got me fired up. Stupidity just hits a nerve with me and he is a good example of it. Now onto positions. Have you tried the spooning? It kind of reminds me of doggy style but just in bed. That's the only one that I can think of off the top of my head that could also work out for you.

[8bitz]

Kennimae92; no worries. I'm not the type to worry about attacks online. There has never been a man big enough to intimidate me in person, the internet sure isn't. Besides, I'm not in "the game." If it's all supposed to be a game, the girl whomever she's supposed to be simply ain't worth it :)

Anyway, I had to think about that position question for a second. I think my favorite is sitting upright, like on a couch or chair, with "doggystyle" standing or down as a close second. Standing upright face to face is awesome too for those who can make it work. I don't really care for missionary, no matter who's on top.

[NOHARD]

Ignorant for me, but a n=man comes on site saying what he has the first he does not know his way around a women then does he, to be a good lover you need to apppreciate, the smell of a wome and the taste of a women, end of story.
Good Luck

[kennimae92]

NOHARD you really are ignorant aren't you. Just because he doesn't like giving oral doesn't make him any less of a man. I hate giving oral so does that make me less of a woman? No it doesn't. And there is other foreplay than doing oral thank you very much. Honestly, I tell my husband not to do it because I don't like it and he doesn't like doing it so it works out. It doesn't make my husband any less of a man. So before you degrade someone go look in the mirror and take a good look at your faults because he sure as all hell didn't come here to get looked down on by you!

Now for the original poster. I agree that you should try and use your fingers. I was once with a guy that was horrible in bed and would get me off with his fingers. You could find a girls g spot and/or play with her clit. And just because I am curious what positions make you go limp and what have u found that works?

[NOHARD]

First your some sad man, oral sex is a part of foreplay, but then it takes a real man to do it and most women want there men to do it, just as we men just love having it done to us, as for taste there is nothing like it, and doing straight after sex shows your women that she has a real man in bed with her, all the tastes now mixed together, nothing like it.
You putting this out just shows what a real whimp you are with any women, I think its time for you to become a real man, so either do it and enjoy doing it, or just get out of the game.

[iam1butterfly]

From my perspective, receiving oral sex from a man would certainly gain points with me, especially if a man struggled in the areas that you mentioned. But, there are other ways to pleasure a woman. I was with a man not long ago, who was also not particularly interested in oral sex... giving or receiving. He had very poor circulation and couldn't feel his penis being stimulated... even when I gnawed and pulled on him with my teeth! And, due to a deviated septum, his giving me oral sex was out of the question as he was unable to breathe through his nose. He also suffered from ED, so intercourse was virtually non-existent. However, he perfected a technique of being able to arouse and satisfy me with his fingers. He had big hands with rather long and large fingers and, with my input, developed a two finger motion with the use of a warming lubricant that drove me crazy. So, there are ways... you just have to experiment. I suggest you try using your finger(s).