Penis reduction surgery? options?

[Brad32779]

I am a 35 year old Caucasian male.  I have what I always thought I had an average penis size.  Evidential this is not the case.  Girls always told me I was huge etc. I just assumed that was what all the girls told guys in general.  I measured my penis from the point where the base meets my torso/waist area approximately 19 cm (7.5 inchs) below my belly button. From this point to the head it is just shy of 24 cm (9.4 inchs) not taking in to effect a slight curve to the left from the pant leg that is stays in most of the time.  The circumference or diameter is16.5cm  (6.6 inchs).  My wife (of nine years) does not want to have sexual intercourse with me anymore as it is painful to her. When we try vaginal sex even with ample lubrication you would think I was killing her and is basically traumatic. We have other types of sex often but not vaginal. Anal sex has always been out of the question from all the partners I have ever dated. This is more from a circumference fear then from length issues.  I can modify my physical position to control how much goes in which an ex wife taught me to do because I hit the cervix and she didn't like that.  When flacid it is much smaller looking and does not  hang out of the bottom of my shorts or bathing suit as I only wear knee length ones to prevent pop outs.  My wife wants me to look into a penal reduction surgery or other option.  She keeps bringing it up and my response has always been why don't you get a vagina circumference increase surgery.  Basically it is a great source of tension in our marriage   I have two young children with her together, she loves me and is fairly attractive, other then this sexual parts compatibility problem she is a pretty cool girl, so divorce is not really a option here.  She is 5' 6'' 125lbs, I am 5'11 and 190lbs.  Any suggestions as to ways to shrink it a bit would be great. I am circumcised.  I would like to improve this sexual incompatibility and keep the same wife.

I posted this in the urology section originally but I thought to post it here as well as I am not sure what type of issue or doctor can assist. (I fixed some spelling and punctuation this time as there does not appear to be a edit capability that I can find)

This is a serious question, so to that guy that advised "I rub bologna on it because the nitrates in it will chemically shrink my penis temporarily"  While amusing..... it is not helpful. I see this type of what to do question has been asked a few times over the years here and the community answers are always people making a jokes or the question is never legitimately answered.  

Thanks much

Brad

[cathylee1]

  I've delt with my boyfriends large size but nothing like  these mentioned here.

[TTruth]

So, I'm going to be blunt here. I don't know if you know this, but women lie. I've got a friend whose wife kept telling him how his sex drive was so horrible and inslaving to her, then she'd get on Facebook and tell her best friend how she needed to find a ****! She was cheating and lying to his face about it! (He has an average penis). I have a big penis. I don't know if the rest of you actually do, but I do. I have never had a woman reject it. Actually, every woman I have ever been with has been addicted to it. A couple have tried to tell me it's too big, I ignored them, told them to go away, and they came back begging. Remember, WOMEN LIE!  A lot of them lie just because it's fun for them to screw with you. Does it sound like I'm some insensitive jerk who "doesn't care about his partner". Then think about this, the woman who supposedly loves you so much is asking you to have part of your **** cut off: sweetbutbitter (did you all catch her screen name?!?), and your thinking about doing it! Then you'll find out that there were a host of other reasons she wasn't having sex with including, but not limited to, the guys she's cheating on you with. She'll have the last laugh and you'll have a mutilated penis. If any of you are for real, WAKE THE F*** UP! If divorce or just leaving is an option, do it. If it's not an option, cheat! If she's made your life misseable enough that you are contemplating cutting part of your **** off, she deserves it. If she's asking you to cut part of your **** off, she diserves it. Hell, in either case she more than deserves it!!!

[matt646]

Im australian, and my wife is Vietnamese. For us size has been a big issue since we got together. People say the vagina expands, but that said it was often painful for her.

The problem was reduced after having 2 children, but there are still times when its too much for her to take, and recently she has shied completely away from having vaginal sex -> though we still use fingers, and dildos for her -> so dont tell me she has a headache, its the size that is brutal to her.

Ive been considering taking steriods from a guy at the gym, as i heard that would shrink my penius down, but i dont know if this is a good idea or not! i found this thread in google, and was hoping to find some answers.

[akssoni]

i am also dealing with same problem with my wife.but my gf enjoys it no problem with her.

[MK_IX]

I feel for you man.  I have modest length (7"), but unusual girth (7").  I've never been interested in settling down with one female, but in the pursuit of women, it's cost me plenty of sex.  Not all of them have a problem with my size, and some even like it, but too many have refused me when they found out how big I am or they tried being with me -only once- and often have bled mildly (pink spots on the sheets) and I use lubrication as a standard.  It doesn't help that I prefer short, petite women who often have smaller vaginas.  Anal sex has almost always been out of the question even with girls who like that :(.  I've scoured the internet and there's little solid information on the topic.  It seems rare to find people just to take it serious.  I'm less concerned with infertility being an adverse reaction to a procedure (doesn't seem that would occur), but worry about a resulting erectile dysfunction.  If anyone has come across a successful solution, please share, I'm tired of the burden.

[Dalubaba]

Vagina is elastic.In child birth mouth of vagina expands to the size of the head of a child and resumes its size after the delivery. So if you penitence gradually and changing the continent postures , you may solve your problem.