Penis reduction surgery? options?

[Brad32779]

I am a 35 year old Caucasian male.  I have what I always thought I had an average penis size.  Evidential this is not the case.  Girls always told me I was huge etc. I just assumed that was what all the girls told guys in general.  I measured my penis from the point where the base meets my torso/waist area approximately 19 cm (7.5 inchs) below my belly button. From this point to the head it is just shy of 24 cm (9.4 inchs) not taking in to effect a slight curve to the left from the pant leg that is stays in most of the time.  The circumference or diameter is16.5cm  (6.6 inchs).  My wife (of nine years) does not want to have sexual intercourse with me anymore as it is painful to her. When we try vaginal sex even with ample lubrication you would think I was killing her and is basically traumatic. We have other types of sex often but not vaginal. Anal sex has always been out of the question from all the partners I have ever dated. This is more from a circumference fear then from length issues.  I can modify my physical position to control how much goes in which an ex wife taught me to do because I hit the cervix and she didn't like that.  When flacid it is much smaller looking and does not  hang out of the bottom of my shorts or bathing suit as I only wear knee length ones to prevent pop outs.  My wife wants me to look into a penal reduction surgery or other option.  She keeps bringing it up and my response has always been why don't you get a vagina circumference increase surgery.  Basically it is a great source of tension in our marriage   I have two young children with her together, she loves me and is fairly attractive, other then this sexual parts compatibility problem she is a pretty cool girl, so divorce is not really a option here.  She is 5' 6'' 125lbs, I am 5'11 and 190lbs.  Any suggestions as to ways to shrink it a bit would be great. I am circumcised.  I would like to improve this sexual incompatibility and keep the same wife.

I posted this in the urology section originally but I thought to post it here as well as I am not sure what type of issue or doctor can assist. (I fixed some spelling and punctuation this time as there does not appear to be a edit capability that I can find)

This is a serious question, so to that guy that advised "I rub bologna on it because the nitrates in it will chemically shrink my penis temporarily"  While amusing..... it is not helpful. I see this type of what to do question has been asked a few times over the years here and the community answers are always people making a jokes or the question is never legitimately answered.  

Thanks much

Brad

[btliftbig]

This is no joke... I found my wife of more than 30 years crying in the bathroom from the pain after we had sex... it tore my heart out. You guys that think its a joke must not care much about your partners....that may be why you are probably alone... women really want a man that truly cares about them.

[schnagel]

has her hormones been tested? she might be getting dry like I did until I fixed them.

[qspjbw]

just wondering.. why don't you tie a knot or two on your penis before attempting an intercourse?

[Dalubaba]

Occasionally, a man with a big penis feels that he wants it reduced in size. This can be done, but there is quite a risk that the operation might go wrong.

Again, we advise you not to have this operation unless an NHS consultant urologist has said it is necessary.

[bailyboo]

You need to see a urologist for help with this issue i've never heard of penis reduction but a urologist might have some ideas on how to make sex with your wife much more comfortable. Womens vaginas are ment to fit penis's so maybe if you take it slow and easy with good lubrication it wont hurt her so much. It seems you've had sex quite often I mean u do have children together so just try it different ways and see what works for her the best. But I would definitely see a urologist for a long term solution.  

[JIMINPENSACOLA]

I'M NOT SURE IF YOU ARE BRAGGING OR COMPLAINING. IF YOU LOWER YOUR TESTROSTRONE LEVEL YOUR ERECTION WILL BE SMALLER. SEE A UROLOGEST. IF YOU CAN WAIT LONG ENOUGH MOTHER NATURE WILL LOWER THE LEVEL FOR YOU.  

[Bubs007]

I'm having the same issue, my partner only gives me oral. I want to get a penis reduction surgery but I have a fear of scars and adverse side effects. I have done anal once with my partner, bit it is hard for me to adjust my penis.