Penis reduction surgery? options?

[Brad32779]

I am a 35 year old Caucasian male.  I have what I always thought I had an average penis size.  Evidential this is not the case.  Girls always told me I was huge etc. I just assumed that was what all the girls told guys in general.  I measured my penis from the point where the base meets my torso/waist area approximately 19 cm (7.5 inchs) below my belly button. From this point to the head it is just shy of 24 cm (9.4 inchs) not taking in to effect a slight curve to the left from the pant leg that is stays in most of the time.  The circumference or diameter is16.5cm  (6.6 inchs).  My wife (of nine years) does not want to have sexual intercourse with me anymore as it is painful to her. When we try vaginal sex even with ample lubrication you would think I was killing her and is basically traumatic. We have other types of sex often but not vaginal. Anal sex has always been out of the question from all the partners I have ever dated. This is more from a circumference fear then from length issues.  I can modify my physical position to control how much goes in which an ex wife taught me to do because I hit the cervix and she didn't like that.  When flacid it is much smaller looking and does not  hang out of the bottom of my shorts or bathing suit as I only wear knee length ones to prevent pop outs.  My wife wants me to look into a penal reduction surgery or other option.  She keeps bringing it up and my response has always been why don't you get a vagina circumference increase surgery.  Basically it is a great source of tension in our marriage   I have two young children with her together, she loves me and is fairly attractive, other then this sexual parts compatibility problem she is a pretty cool girl, so divorce is not really a option here.  She is 5' 6'' 125lbs, I am 5'11 and 190lbs.  Any suggestions as to ways to shrink it a bit would be great. I am circumcised.  I would like to improve this sexual incompatibility and keep the same wife.

I posted this in the urology section originally but I thought to post it here as well as I am not sure what type of issue or doctor can assist. (I fixed some spelling and punctuation this time as there does not appear to be a edit capability that I can find)

This is a serious question, so to that guy that advised "I rub bologna on it because the nitrates in it will chemically shrink my penis temporarily"  While amusing..... it is not helpful. I see this type of what to do question has been asked a few times over the years here and the community answers are always people making a jokes or the question is never legitimately answered.  

Thanks much

Brad

[ron82]

dude you just an a$$ or you simply don't know what the F ur r talkn about.  If you really are big and not full of sh*t pay attention to the woman you are with.  Im not huge but above average and it has been a problem with more than one woman.  One of which, I really liked and that is what brought me to google this.  We really liked each other and tried about a dozen times the first night and failed miserably.  She definitely wanted me and sex and it was actually her sister that told her she should break up with me over my size.  She ignored her sister and we dated a couple more months but she avoided sex and when we tried again from the back with her butt as a buffer she asked me to focus on finishing because she really liked me and wanted me to.  However, while focusing on hurrying up I didn't know until after that she silently cried into the pillow.  The next time it came up she said she was on her period and we couldn't do anything.  Then she broke up with me shortly after.  So my thought on you is you are an inconsiderate pr*ck or lying about your size.

[ron82]

Jim, I can relate to this story and can assure you that this is a very serious issue.  My girlfriend and I dated three months and really liked each other but she broke up with me because sex really hurt her and I am only a little larger than avg at 8" even but she is smaller than normal and we failed miserably several times at sex.  I am very gentle and stop when I see a girl wince in pain and she was very upset and cried because I couldn't finish either so all that pain she went through was for nothing.

[hnw121507]

I would not suggest a surgery that could peranently disable your use of your penis. I also dont think cheating is the answer because that will cause more pain. There isnt alot you can do about the width but take your wife to a sex shop they do have things that can help with the length issue. Talk to a uroligist and have her ask for advice from her gyn. There are ways to improve your sex life without physically or emotionally damaging your wife. Please dont listen to these assholes telling you to cheat.at that point you might as well leave her.

[Dalubaba]

I wonder whether, changing posture can help to have good intercourse with a larger penis. I think doggy posture will be helpful.

[Bill8246]

I hate to say it, but testosterone levels have nothing to do with it.  I'm 66, with my second wife, and I have the SAME PROBLEM.  Some might think we should be bragging, but it's not fun to hurt the one you love.  It's only in the movies that it's so great!

[donahue478]

I'm black and have the same problem,even though I put half in,I'm hitting bottom. Please help. craig donahue-Macon Ga.