I can't lose fat, no matter what I do. I'm desperate! Please help!!!
I'm 39, 5'3", 148lbs.I'm at my absolute wits end. Last year I weighed 138lbs. The year before that I was around 130. I've always struggled with my weight - even when dancing 3-4 hours a day and in rehearsals, I was always around 145. Then 6 years ago when I finally got down to a comfortable weight by basically starving and not exercising. I kept it off by really limiting food intake, but suddenly a year ago my weight started to creep up, clothes got tighter.
I started to skip eating every other day, and I was able to stay around 135-138, then I moved across country and my weight shot up 10lbs in 4 months, despite dieting/starving and exercising.
The weight gain finally stopped in January, but I haven't been able to get it to move in the other direction. I just completed the Insanity workout program and saw absolutely no results not a centimeter lost. My clothes are so tight. I want to cry every day when I try to get dressed.
I teach dance, practice vigorous yoga, walk as much as I can, count calories, eat clean, and drink plenty of water.
I've tried to raise calories, lower calories, fast every other day, lower carbs, raise protein. NOTHING WORKS.
I've seen doctors and nutritionists, and I think they either don't believe me or don't know what to do with me. I'm so desperate, I'm ready to go on a complete water fast for however long it takes to get back to my old weight.
Does anyone have any insight or experience with this? Please help me. I'm depressed and desperate.
The first thing that comes to mind is hypothyroidism...... You should have some simple blood tests done to make sure your thyroid is working as it should. The tests you need are TSH, Free T3 and Free T4. Many/most doctors will try to get by with just TSH, but that's inadequate; you need the actual hormones tested, as well.
Another thing to consider is insulin resistance. You can get some simple blood sugar tests to help determine that.
You might also want to have reproductive hormones tested, since its' possible that you are entering into the perimenopause stage, in which hormones naturally decline and weight gain is very common.
Thanks for the response.
I have had my thyroid tested. The numbers have come back within range - although my T3 was at the absolute lowest end of the normal range - so all I got from the doctors was, "your labs are 'normal'".
I've also had hormones tested and they seem ok.
I'll look into Insulin Resistance.
If your thyroid T3 was at the bottom of the range, that would be your culprit and while you might be able to lose weight by working very hard at it, it's going to be very difficult. Many doctors think that labs in the so-called "normal range" are adequate and that's simply not the case.
Free T3 is the hormone that controls metabolism, heart rate, body temperature and other necessary functions. If it's not adequate, you won't feel optimal. Do you have other symptoms of hypothyroidism?
Hi. I'd just like to offer a bit of advice:
Starving yourself will make you maintain/gain weight in the form of fat eventually.
Find our what your BMR is and determine a safe caloric intake from there, then you maintain that diet. Many times you'll see weight gain before weight loss because you're lacking nutrients your body needs. That's NORMAL!
Maintaining this diet, and being serious about keeping it, you should incorporate some exercise in your lifestyle also.
Doing all of the above, it could take up to 4-6 WEEKS before you see a change. This is normal so don't lose motivation!
Hope this helps...
alleekat: It seems to me like your Yo-Yo dieting. You starve yourself to lose and gain back more than you"ve lost. I used to do that too, but no longer do because I realised it is a self sabotage dieting. I now am losing weight but slowly and I don't skip meals. I have a caloric intake that was figured out by my dietician that I stick to every day and I've refocused on eating healthier and smarter. Give yourself some time to think of the weight you want to lose and focus on maintaining a certain weight. Keep a diet journal write down what you eat. Think positive about yourself and love yourself!!!!
Thanks. I get what you're saying, but this is the first time I've actually gone up in weight in over 20 years.
I gained a lot of weight early in high school, to hit my all-time high, and I started to work on losing at age 16. I did it mostly through exercise, and choosing foods more carefully but not counting calories. I went vegan at 20 and lost more weight. Then I started dancing more and dropped to around 145. I stayed there for years, remaining active, but not counting calories.
Only a couple times throughout all of these years were calories significantly restricted, but it was unintentional and due to losing appetite because of stress. Both times I maintained the stress-induced weight loss.
So... this recent gain is all the more upsetting for me because it is the first time in over 20 years that I have gained weight.
I've already gained weight pretty much undereating. Do you think I will gain more??
In January, I bumped up my calories to around 1300 at the suggestion of a nutritionist - she actually wanted me to go higher, but I was coming from such a low intake that it was difficult, so I was going gradually. Then I graduated up to between 1400-1500, while I was doing Insanity. I didn't gain any more, but I didn't lose either. I did notice that I was not getting as cold and I was sweating again during exercise. Do you think I need to go higher than 1500??
I really don't think I could handle gaining any more.
I was feeling cold often and often experienced cold extremities. I live in SoCal now, so it's harder to gauge. I did notice that I felt warmer, when I started to eat more.
I sometimes feel like my digestion is sluggish, so I am careful about what I eat. I do also feel as though that has improved, since trying to eat more.
Other than that, I don't seem to have hair loss, dry skin, or sluggishness. I get out of bed easily almost as soon as I wake up, I never feel the need to nap, and I have plenty of energy to workout, etc...
I have been trying to lose 70 pounds for a late spring wedding and I am doing really well. I have hit a little plateau though, I have lost about 30 pounds but it is not coming off as fast as in the beginning. Barbare445 recommended dairy fats
http://desperateloseweight.blogspot.com/2013/04/desperate-to-lose-weight-what-really.html which I am starting this week.
I am not doing any exercise because i have bad joints and I had a very bad experience falling in the past. The weight loss came off really quick but I can't lose anymore.
Girl, I am EXACTLY where you are! I've had my hormones checked...I eat very healthy...I do bootcamp 5 to 6 times a day. I do low carb...have a protein shake for breakfast....etc, etc etc. I'm 38 and my weight did the exact same thing 2 years ago. I was always around 150/155...now I'm at 165 and nothing I do helps. I also developed fat around my mid section and it will not budge for anything. I am at my wits end too. I just don't know what to do.
Anyway, I just wanted to let you know that you're not alone. I hope we can find the answer for ourselves soon. Good luck to you!
I'm on the same boat. I cannot lose an ounce no matter what I do. Eat green veggies, fruits, nothing I do helps. I'm at the end of my rope. I'm so sick of stepping on the scale after depriving myself of every food I enjoy. I'm in the gym 2 hours a day, 6 days a week. Running, crossfit, weight training. Everyone around me loses and my body hangs on and even gains weight! ERG!! HELP!!!!!
I am a vegetarian (5 years). I've never been overweight per se but I was once at a point that i needed to lose a few lbs (10-15 or so). I'm in 40's so those extra lbs gravitate quite gleefully to my stomach area. Anyway, was determined not to only evict the loiterers but replace them with a 6-pack and get my body in model shape. It is a struggle but am making progress.
Yes, we're in different places but I think something that helped me may help you: carb cycling and high intensity interval training
I assume you are separating your weights and cardio days (if not, try it and see if you get better results). On your weight days, make the first meal post workout your largest and feel free to gorge on a all the starchy carbs you want (protein and veggies are must every day though). Try to limit fats on these days. I always follow my weight lifting with an immediate nice/easy 20 min jog on the treadmill to burn all the fatty acids in my blood.
On your cardio and/or rest days limit the starchy carbs (like none as much as possible). Focus on proteins/fats. It is easy for me as I eat simple foods (I hardly use the stove) but I understand it could be challenging for some, especially those with families. Also, on your cardio days must be some flavor of HIIT (be it on treadmill or bike). Those nice easy steady state runs have got to go on these days
I assume you’re not eating crap on a regular bases so will save the commenting here…..
Anyway, that’s all I can think of off the top of my head.
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