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adoption or keep baby?
No rude, ignorant comments, but i'm 15 and pregnant, not even half way through with high school. Boyfriend left me. Should i keep the baby or put him/her up for adoption? The selfish side of me is saying keep the baby, and prove everybody wrong but i am very young. I need advice, keep or put him/her up for adoption.
Oh and I'm a teen mom got pregnant at 16 had him at 17 busted my butt of at night school and day school to finish early befor he was born it was really hard but it can be done now I'm pregnant with my second baby and I love proving everybody wrong that did not believe in me gives me joy
If your not even half way through high school, you dont have a job or any way of suporting a child, you need to be open to adoption jist cause you didnt protect yourself doesnt mean that baby needs to suffer. Give that baby a life and future it deserves. Think about whats best for baby not you.
Ur young but im sure u can make a great mum. Im sure many young girls ur age managed well. Have u got a support of family?? How far r you in pregnancy?
No one else can really tell you what to do here. I think the best thing u can do is think can u afford it? Daycare, food, toys, formula, diapers, baby furniture? I think the best thing to do is talk to it parents. Will u have their help? They can probably give u the best advice. It all depends on ur situation.
Its all up to you both have their upside. Keeping the baby is hard work and you'll need great support from your family especially so you can finish high school but you'll also get to see how great it is to be a mom early. Adoption is the most selfless thing you can do for your child if you don't think you can be there the way you need to he you can make a couple the happiest people ever a lot of women can't have babies and are so gracious for your bundle of joy. It will be hard though very hard. I have a friend who had an open adoption with her first child and she saw him played with him but also got to see a couple love him and take care of him the way she couldn't but now she has her own baby but still sees her other child. Try making a pros and coins list. Be strong either way whatever you decide is the right decision because if you keep the baby its because you know you can support and love it completely and if you choose adoption you'll be giving the best gift anyone could.
You're still young and have growing up to do, but just because the guy isn't around doesn't mean you have to give up your baby. Yes it's going to be very difficult, but if you have strong support system that's always good. I'm 19, but still without my family I don't know what I would do. Abortion to me is never the answer. If you truely feel like you can't handle it find a good family and maybe have an open adoption where you can still see your child from time to time. (:
Its really your choice I'm 20 but when I was 15 I wasn't having sex so I can't say much but I had a rough childhood and I already proved everyone wrong. And I was in foster care sense I was a baby til 18 and it wasn't easythere are people that are kind but there are many that uses the system to get more money and ruins the child's life so please think about your choice before choosing adoption. It is hard to take care of a baby but in the long run it makes you a better person that's what I heard.
Baby girl my little sister had a baby at 14 I bet u will better then a grown women
I have no job, but my family has a lot of money. I just don't think i'm fit to be a parent. But i know a lot of adopted children tend to have that "my mom didnt want me" mentality. I want the best for my baby, just not sure.
^ lol good for you! That would give me joy too. I'm having a home birth and my family is freaking out and I'm gonna love showing them I can do it! But I agree, if you feel like you can not care for the baby then adoption is a good option, you can maybe do an open adoption so you can still see your baby. But lots of girls have babies young and do great. I have a friend that had her son at 16 and she is 18 now and finishing high school.
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I had my son at 15. I graduated high school with honors while working afternoons and I'm going to graduate college next year. It can be done. But my biggest thing was I had a lot of financial support from my family. My son has never had to go without. If I was in a predicament where he wouldn't have had food or diapers I would have considered adoption.
At least your being smart and open too choices. You just have to sit down and think about whats best for the baby and then you. If you feel you cant parent a child just look in to open adoption, and just cause you look into it doesnt mean you will do it your just open. Goood Luck. :)
You can always do an open adoption so you can stay in contact with your child. My cousin gave her boy up because she was not ready to be a parent at 16. She had a closed adoption. At 18 her son went looking for her and they met. After meeting and seeing how much she loves him and how difficult her life has been (not because of the adoption. She just struggled to get herself together in general) he thanked her for giving him up. He now comes to our family events and says he has two loving families. He was raised by great people and had a great childhood.
You can always talk to an adoption agency without making any commitment. It may help you decide what you want to do. Being a parent is hard and only you can know if you are up for it or not.
You can always talk to an adoption agency without making any commitment. It may help you decide what you want to do. Being a parent is hard and only you can know if you are up for it or not.
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You should think about the baby's own good before deciding. In my opinion I would keep and get help from relatives.
Hi. I Am also 15 and pregnant. Im 4 months today. Is honestly up to you what you want to do. Nobody's here to judge you for what you decide. But I think you'll be a great mom. It is going to be tough. It's just another obstacle the Lord has put in front of you to see If you'll jump over it or not. I believe if I can do, so can anyone else. It's never the right time to have children. But if you want to give the child up for adoption,think real hard about it. Good luck hunnie.
You should think twice about giving your baby up . Having a kid at a young age is hard but sometimes you have to face the consequences if you have family support you should keep the baby. If you put it up for adoption then that baby is going to wonder why you did it and at of other stuff. I think if you set your mind to it you will be a great mom and not let anyone bring you down also if you have a dream keep fighting that dream for your kid. I'm a young mom to be and I just look it as if God wouldn't give us something we couldn't handle .good luck(:
Are your parents interested in raising another baby? Providing for you and your child for who knows how many years until you're grown up enough to afford to take over the responsibility? If you decide to carry this pregnancy and keep the baby are you really going to be able to give a child not just the tangible "stuff" (clothes diapers food shelter carseat crib stroller swing highchair toys blankets etc) but the time and the attention and the patience and the constant all-consuming work of raising a child? It's not just diapers and bottles, it's every moment of your day making sure of seven different things at a time.
Taking on the responsibility of raising a human being so that you can prove someone else wrong seems like just about the worst reason I've ever heard to become a parent especially when, as you said yourself, you don't think you're fit to be a parent. Would you rather your child be adopted and learn later on that he/she had a young and unprepared birth mother who wanted the best for him/her, or would you rather that child learn the hard way just how unprepared you really are?
You are very young. If you have decided for certain to continue with the pregnancy, in your situation it sounds like adoption should be a very strong consideration.
Taking on the responsibility of raising a human being so that you can prove someone else wrong seems like just about the worst reason I've ever heard to become a parent especially when, as you said yourself, you don't think you're fit to be a parent. Would you rather your child be adopted and learn later on that he/she had a young and unprepared birth mother who wanted the best for him/her, or would you rather that child learn the hard way just how unprepared you really are?
You are very young. If you have decided for certain to continue with the pregnancy, in your situation it sounds like adoption should be a very strong consideration.
Im 17 and pregnant i wasn't planning on having a child so young either. I wasnt on birth control and the guy that i am pregnant by took hia condom of and once i broke up with him he tried killing himself. He got well of course but thn he wouldn't leave me alone. I didn't want anything to do with him or my baby but everyone in my family have been really supporting and i decided to keep my baby now i am 25 weeks pregnant and im happy with the choice i made just to my baby growing inside of me and seeing and hearing her is amazing. Just give it a little more time for things to change thn yu decide
@mommytobe girl ... chill , don't tell her to bot have sex because she got pregnant . shes just stuck on what to do like damn near all teen moms .
anywho I got pregnant at 15 , now im 16 and still pregnant , im only a sophomore . well out here in considered a junior already , but my point is , is that im know where near close to being done with school I have a ton of credits I need to make up for in order for me to graduate . but just bc I have a baby on tge way when I still got to finish school don't mean ima give my child up for adoption . im not working either , and won't be till next summer at least , I have family that will support and help me with anything I need. there are many ppl who doubt me about parenting my child still , which makes me even more eager to have my baby and prove them wrong . my child is my motivation . ALOT of ppl say its gone be tough bc we are so young , &&'d of course it is if you keep thinking that , negative thoughts will get you no whete I have nothing but positive thoughts about taking care and raising my baby .you need to know what you are capable of doing thou , and if you are able to give up certain things. Idc what I gotta give up , my baby is worth it. but I'll never give up on my education. so if you want to do both , I hope you know how to multitask lol . I hope that helped baby girl , feel free to msg me about anything . don't mind any ignorant ppl or comments on here , cause there are A TON sadly -.- good luck (: I hope you make the right choices .
anywho I got pregnant at 15 , now im 16 and still pregnant , im only a sophomore . well out here in considered a junior already , but my point is , is that im know where near close to being done with school I have a ton of credits I need to make up for in order for me to graduate . but just bc I have a baby on tge way when I still got to finish school don't mean ima give my child up for adoption . im not working either , and won't be till next summer at least , I have family that will support and help me with anything I need. there are many ppl who doubt me about parenting my child still , which makes me even more eager to have my baby and prove them wrong . my child is my motivation . ALOT of ppl say its gone be tough bc we are so young , &&'d of course it is if you keep thinking that , negative thoughts will get you no whete I have nothing but positive thoughts about taking care and raising my baby .you need to know what you are capable of doing thou , and if you are able to give up certain things. Idc what I gotta give up , my baby is worth it. but I'll never give up on my education. so if you want to do both , I hope you know how to multitask lol . I hope that helped baby girl , feel free to msg me about anything . don't mind any ignorant ppl or comments on here , cause there are A TON sadly -.- good luck (: I hope you make the right choices .
Sorry if this comes off the wrong way but if the only reason you want to keep your baby is to "prove people wrong" then I would suggest adoption. Adoption can provide a home with financially stable and a two parent household. I'm in no way saying its bad for a single parent to raise a baby but if I had the option during my childhood I would have wanted two parents. Sometimes adopted children never even look for their biological parents and if you spend your time finding a good home for your baby with people you trust chances are your child will still be happy even if they do want to look for you. But I have to say don't take advice from strangers about a life changing decision like this. It is your choice to make and only yours. If you do chose to keep this baby make sure you're ready for everything that comes with being a mother.
im pretty sure she saying she would ALSO like to prove ppl wrong , the first thing most ppl say when they see a pregnant teen is " oh , she can't do it " . but I see where you're coming from
My little sis is Preg now at 18 and is giving hers up because she wants her daughter to have the best shot at life....I had my first at 18 and now he is 4 and expecting his brother in 24 days...it's really up to you
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