what are peoples views on abortion? ?

[JoCorr]

I'm basically asking this because my boyfriend droped the bombshell on me 2 days ago, "I think we should have an abortion"!. I was so gobsmacked because he told me he was sooo excited to have a baby. I asked him why and he wants me to have one because he doesn't work and I'm still studying at College and he's scared he's not going to be able to provide. As much as I think he's right I refuse to go through an abortion, its against my religion and I don't believe in it at all. What do other people think, just need a chat about it really because I'm so scared.

[Kirstie_MHModerator]

Regardless of anyone's personal feelings about abortion, I think most people would agree that the WORST decision you could make would be to base it on what someone else - in this case, your boyfriend - thinks you should do.   Making such a big decision based on someone else's preferences, disregarding your own, will only lead to regret and resentment.  

It's not an easy decision, and I wish you well in coming to peace with whatever YOU decide.

[adgal]

It is a personal choice, and the decision is 100% yours.  It is unfortunate that you are in this situation, and I can only imagine what a difficult time this is for you.  Here in Canada, if a women is contemplating an abortion, they first have to visit with a counselor.  Perhaps that might be a good starting point for you and your boyfriend?  Or even just you?  You want someone who will neither push you into it, nor judge you for whatever you decide.  It's your body, and your life and your decision.  No one should try to force you and no one should sit in judgement of you.  Whatever choice you make...adoption, abortion or to keep and raise the child, your life is going to be forever altered, so do make sure you think your decision through carefully. It's a tough one, and I wish you all the best.  Take good care sweetheart.

[inlovewithhubby]

I personally think if people are not responsible enough to raise a baby, they shouldn't be having sex.

[jen_ortiz]

COMPLETELY 110% AGAINST THEM !!!! IF UR ADULT ENOUGH TO HAVE SEX UR ADULT ENOUGH TO TAKE CARE OF THE RESPONSIBILITY!!!!!!

[remar]

I did'nt get to read what you posted earlier so I don't understand why it was deleted. If we can talk about abortion and unplanned, or in some cases, planned pregnancies why can't we talk about birth control? Someone here said that if you're old enough to have sex you're old enough to raise a baby. I have to disagree with that. Let's be real, it takes money, time, maturity, patience, to raise a child. I just think every child deserves a good loving home.

[inlovewithhubby]

Abortion is murder. Why should an innocent baby pay for what their mother has done?