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what are peoples views on abortion? ?
I'm basically asking this because my boyfriend droped the bombshell on me 2 days ago, "I think we should have an abortion"!. I was so gobsmacked because he told me he was sooo excited to have a baby. I asked him why and he wants me to have one because he doesn't work and I'm still studying at College and he's scared he's not going to be able to provide. As much as I think he's right I refuse to go through an abortion, its against my religion and I don't believe in it at all. What do other people think, just need a chat about it really because I'm so scared.
I think that you should try and talk things out with your boyfriend and I know that he gave you a reason to why he wants you have an abortion but I think you need to sit down and talk about it before you make any drastic decisions and do something you'll regret. also I think that you can still have the baby but think of all the options you have is abortion really the only one you could think about adoption yes you may not want the baby but this baby could make another couple who maybe can't have kids so happy. another point I'd like to make is if its against your religion do you really wan to go ahead with it. Another point is that you said that he was happy at first so maybe its not just the fact that he can't afford it maybe there's something else to why he doesn't want you to have the baby. I hope my advice is helpful and I hope you make the right decisions
Hi Jo what every body says he you can just dicount, its no good looking for answers from other people even me, and I'm a man, end of the day its your body, forget religous things, because again its your body and not any gods.
But I can see your b/fs side of it and I think you can as well, he wants his future off spring to be brought up in a home put together by both of you, and can see the sence in you finishing your education, and with him have no job does not help all this, and these are real hard facts.
End of the day your body, and not anybody elses, please just use your brain, when making your decision. and not every body elses.
End of the day me or them will not have to bring it up.
Good Luck
But I can see your b/fs side of it and I think you can as well, he wants his future off spring to be brought up in a home put together by both of you, and can see the sence in you finishing your education, and with him have no job does not help all this, and these are real hard facts.
End of the day your body, and not anybody elses, please just use your brain, when making your decision. and not every body elses.
End of the day me or them will not have to bring it up.
Good Luck
This is a very controversial topic, and tends to spark huge debate. The reality is that the law does not consider a fetus to be a person until around 20 weeks, when there is a small potential for survival outside the womb. Everyone has the right to decide as they will providing it stays within the context of the law. There is no sense arguing about the issue as it is a personal one that most have strong feelings about. This thread has stayed quite civil, and that is a good thing. Could we try to keep it that way?
The idea of souls is a religious one, not a scientific one. And fetuses don't breathe. Babies breathe once they are born.
A heartbeat is not sufficient for survival. A parasite is merely an organism that lives on or in another organism and gains nourishment from the other organism. The relationship can be beneficial or not. Yes, it is alive, but it cannot survive without taking nourishment from the mother. I personally dislike the idea of late term abortions because the fetus theoretically could survive outside without the mother, and it's more fully formed. The scientific jury is still technically out on when a fetus can feel pain, but most estimates are around 24 weeks, and not usually before 20 weeks, which is the cutoff for abortions in many places.
In the mean time, the mother is a living, breathing individual (or soul), who has the right to make personal healthcare decisions. You have the right to make decisions about your own healthcare, and so do other women. Even if you believe that it is against God's will, they are the one who has to deal with the consequences, not you.
A heartbeat is not sufficient for survival. A parasite is merely an organism that lives on or in another organism and gains nourishment from the other organism. The relationship can be beneficial or not. Yes, it is alive, but it cannot survive without taking nourishment from the mother. I personally dislike the idea of late term abortions because the fetus theoretically could survive outside without the mother, and it's more fully formed. The scientific jury is still technically out on when a fetus can feel pain, but most estimates are around 24 weeks, and not usually before 20 weeks, which is the cutoff for abortions in many places.
In the mean time, the mother is a living, breathing individual (or soul), who has the right to make personal healthcare decisions. You have the right to make decisions about your own healthcare, and so do other women. Even if you believe that it is against God's will, they are the one who has to deal with the consequences, not you.
From the moment of conception it is a living, breathing soul. The heart starts beating at 17 days after conception. It is not a parasite. That's the most ludicrous thing I've ever heard. It can feel everything just as much as you can. Just because you're an atheist doesn't mean the baby is not alive. You can believe that lie if you want. That's what people like you say so they don't feel guilty, but its not true.
As some other people said, it's personal. Keep in mind that around 1/3 of American women end up having an abortion at some point, so you would certainly not be alone if that was your decision. If it were me, I would think very hard about my partner being so unsure about raising a kid, because it's a lot of work even with two people. It sounds like you two would also be in a much better position to handle a kid even a year from now, after you graduate and you both have time to get decent jobs and plan for it. Another thing to consider is how much support you could get from your families. If your extended family is willing to pitch in financially, or by helping with babysitting, it will make finishing school a lot more feasible for you.
As an atheist, I don't have any religious objections to abortion. Also, before a certain age (usually around 21 weeks or so), a fetus is essentially a parasite, unable to live without the support of the uterus, even with the best medical technology available. Therefore, my personal belief is that it doesn't count as a separate being before then. The person who is pregnant is an individual being with thoughts, feelings, and a life, and so I count their well being before that of something that is not yet an individual. I also believe that the decision to have or not have an abortion is completely personal, and no one should try to make you feel bad about that decision, whatever it happens to be.
Adoption is also an option if you're dead set against an abortion, and there are plenty of infertile couples (or couples with bad genetics they don't want to pass on) who would love to have a child. There are even open adoptions, which let you stay in contact with the child.
In the end, it sounds like having a baby at this time might be really difficult for you, and it might make sense to try later. You need to weigh your beliefs and the potential outcomes to make the decision, and you should think about it soon so that you have time to sort things out. It will probably go better if you and your boyfriend agree, but since you are the one who is pregnant, and women are often left supporting the children if a couple breaks up, you should have the final word.
As an atheist, I don't have any religious objections to abortion. Also, before a certain age (usually around 21 weeks or so), a fetus is essentially a parasite, unable to live without the support of the uterus, even with the best medical technology available. Therefore, my personal belief is that it doesn't count as a separate being before then. The person who is pregnant is an individual being with thoughts, feelings, and a life, and so I count their well being before that of something that is not yet an individual. I also believe that the decision to have or not have an abortion is completely personal, and no one should try to make you feel bad about that decision, whatever it happens to be.
Adoption is also an option if you're dead set against an abortion, and there are plenty of infertile couples (or couples with bad genetics they don't want to pass on) who would love to have a child. There are even open adoptions, which let you stay in contact with the child.
In the end, it sounds like having a baby at this time might be really difficult for you, and it might make sense to try later. You need to weigh your beliefs and the potential outcomes to make the decision, and you should think about it soon so that you have time to sort things out. It will probably go better if you and your boyfriend agree, but since you are the one who is pregnant, and women are often left supporting the children if a couple breaks up, you should have the final word.
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