Hemorrhoids

[little miss]

Hi! I wanted to make my name little missy, but it was already taken. My name is Melissa, but everyone calls me Missy. I have been having a problem and went to look it up, that's when i found this site. It seems really nice. I hope you all can come up with an answer that will help me and make me feel better. I don't want to go to the doctor, I am very shy. i have been having hemorrhoids really bad. They will bleed even when I'm not going to the bathroom (#2). Today I had blood all over my panties. My Mom told me to put an ice pack. I have and it doesn't help. My boyfriend of seven years and i have anal sex a lot. i know it doesn't help the hemorrhoids, but I really like it. Do any of you know of anything that will help? Thank you in advance.  Missy

[little miss]

I have to be honest with you all. I understand what all of you are saying, but the situation I am in is hard. His family is very old fashioned. He is just like them. Really the only doctor I can go to really isn't a doctor. He has been given the job by God. We all live in a community together. Everyone helps take care of each others kids and we share everything. I know he has other women in his life, but there is nothing I can do about it. That's just the way things are. I know you all won't think my life is right, but it's hard to explain how things work. I do love my boyfriend very much and I want to do what he says, but it's hurting me. My mom preaches at me to leave, but I love him. I guess  he is really my husband. We didn't go to the court house or anything like that, but his Dad married us. If it's under God then I guess we are married. My hemorrhoids seem to be a little better. I tried last night to talk to him about something we could use to stop the babies from comming and all he said was  we  have to leave it in God's hands. He did say we could stop having sex for a while. Now, i wonder why he was so nice about it. Thank you all so much for answering me. I feel like I am in my own little world, not connected to anyone.

[lucylocket2]

It seems like you've had it really hard. I don't get your b/f. How can you do what he says even if you don't beleive it yourself? That's taking away from your own true feelings. i'm sorry but he doesn't sound like a very good man. Does he help with the kids?

[little miss]

I have wondered many times if he liked vaginal sex. I thought maybe after 5 kids it was streched out. Does that happen? He used to like it. It's a thing with his family not using birth control. i feel like sneaking and taking it, but he'd leave me for sure if he found out. My hemorrhoid has stopped bleeding for now. I am going to let it heal for a little while.I am going to take a warm bath in a little while. i never have time for stuff like that, so I am looking forward to it.I get up at 3:45 just so I can have breakfast ready when they get up. I don't have much time for myself. They are at his parents today. I hope she will keep them untill tomorrow. I'm just so tired. You all are so nice. I wish I would of met you all a long time ago. I don't have any friends. No time for it. Thank you for being so nice to me. Missy

[spade22]

Just curious here because I have never had anal sex..... Do you orgasism from it?  I know men have a G-spot in their anus but hadnt heard about anything similar with a women so I didnt think it would  be very pleasurable for a women.

Also, I agree with the other ladies in that you should cut back on the anal sex to give the hemorrhoids time to heal.

[sk2006a]

just keep in mind that this is YOUR body and YOUR health.  you may need to see a doctor to make sure there isn't an infection going on at this point, and to make sure that you have only a small hemorrhoid.  enjoying anal sex is one thing; doing it in spite of pain to make your bf happy is another.  i have to say i would have a problem if i had a bf tell me that i couldn't take bc pills.  if it not too personal, does he still enjoy vaginal sex???

[little miss]

Thank you to all that answered me. I tried to tell my boyfriend about the hemorrhoid. He didn't like the idea of not having anal sex for a while. He wants me to go to the doctor and see how I can get it fixed faster. He is a good man, just a little pushy.I have five kids, that's why I like anal better. i don't think I could handle anymore kids. I feel like they just climb out of the woodwork sometimes. Just fixing supper is a huge chore. My boyfriend doesn't want me to use birth control. If it's God's will then I will or won't get pregnant. I think God gave the Doctors the intellegence to make the birth control and us the brains to use it! I do not want anymore kids!!! I have anal because he likes it and I know I won't get pregnant. Smart thinking, I thought.I love my kids and do everything for them. I think if I had more though, I'd jump off a bridge!