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Can "spoiled" be misdiagnosed as ADHD

My son who is 9 lived with my mother and step-father from the time he was three until last year. They took him to the a few doctors, because they couldn't "handle him" who diagnosed him with ADHD, and prescribed him meds He was getting into trouble on the bus and at school. The meds did very little to change the behavior but did cause weight loss, upset stomach and anger issues. Now that he is living with me, I very few of the problems that my parents said were ADHD symptoms, even when he is not on his meds and he has gained more in three months on the meds here than he did in the last year he lived there. My mother and step-father would not tell him no ever, feed him junk food and basically spoiled him rotten like a grandparent should but not a primary care giver. Could his diognosis of ADHD be caused by being spoiled or is he just growing out of it.
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189897 tn?1441130118
      The fact that he also had problems at school would indicate that the diagnosis might be accurate.  As a child does age, they do gain more control over their actions.  Thus the more 'hyper" things they do will lessen.  However, the attention problems will remain the same.  There is a lot that can be done.  The first is for you to become familiar with what ADHD is all about and how to help.  A great book to help you is, "The ADD/ ADHD Answer book," by Susan Ashley. Please post if you have more questions.
1744272 tn?1314212644
The only time he got into trouble in school this last year that he was living with me was within two days of visiting his grandparents. No other time did he have any reports of bad behavior and I was told by his teacher that he was a pleasure to have in class but she could tell when he had spent the weekend away from home.
189897 tn?1441130118
   Ahhh, that's a bit different then when you said, "He was getting into trouble on the bus and at school".  So to answer your last question, it is "yes" to both.  
   My guess would be that a pediatrician prescribed his meds.  If you really want to find out what is going on I would look for a pediatric psychiatrist and have them check him out.  Second, choice is to get the book I recommended and read it.  It should clear up some things for you.
   I am curious as to the meds he is on and the strength of the meds.  Many ADHD meds would drive a non ADHD kid up the wall, while having the opposite effect on a child with ADHD.  However, a very low dose might give a normal child some of the symptoms you describe.  And actually a lot of the problems could have come from his environment and not the meds.   Hope this helps a bit.  Really need a lot more info to do more.
1744272 tn?1314212644
Thank you for your advice I guess I was just looking for opinions on the matter from parents of kids with AdHD and parents of kids who are overly spoiled by their grandparents.
757137 tn?1347200053
Can spoiling result in a misdiagnosis of ADD? Yes! So can other forms of bad parenting.
1744272 tn?1314212644
My son started this school year without his meditate just taking the intuniv at night and doing really well.
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hi, all of my kids have adhd,23yr, 17yr old,10,and 9 and me, im 46
we had a hard time to, but the keys iv'e found are 1.add\adhd have to be on a special diet,not your mothers candy diet. 2. your kid will spike,or get ill  breifly  when coming off there med. each day. let them have there space at that time. and 3rd  don't skip any days of med. my kids learned to eat as  they went along. at first the doc said to give them sat and sun off.
that just makes things harder,because its family time and all hell breaks loose on those days. and addarall is our familys choise.
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