not sure what to do or think

[marsal1979]

I have a three year old daughter, i'm concerned because her verbal communication isn't exactly the best, I understand her because i'm around her, she is able to say certain words clearly such as candy, milk, what are you doing, but thats about it, since she's learned to walk she's walked mainly on her tip toes, occasionally she walks normally, she is facinated with keys and books, she will sit on the floor and shake the keys over the book for hours she lowers her head so that the keys touch her lip and book at the same time while shaking them and if it doesn't hit the right way she has a fit, I'd say after her third bday if she would get upset she'd yell a lot more. I noticed that when she's upset she tends to lick her fingers and rub the top of her hand to calm herself, this concerns me. I've asked her doctor, which the visit seemed rushed since I know that they can only spend 15 minutes with each patient, but her doctor said she doesn't see any concerns, that maybe my daughter is just a slow learner, the issue I have with that is that my daughter can tell you by sight certain letters of the alphabet, and mimics sounds for certain songs occasionally getting in some words, she knows itsy bitsy spider, ABC's, counts to 25. she's bright but can't communitcate clearly.
If someone has and suggestions or answers for me, please write back. Thanks

[marsal1979]

thank you for replying, her eye contact is really good, if i'm talking to her and she's not paying attention I'll ask her "let me see your face" and she looks right at me, she's very loving, and will hug me and kiss me on the cheek, so that's what confuses me, is because i've done lot's of reading and to me the symptoms are 50/50 i'm going to be having a speech therapist see her in february!  

[therese83]

Sometimes children need to be examined by a psychologist and you should ask for a referral.  A mom usually senses if something is not quite right.  Early intervention, or even advice can be very helpful to the childs overall outcome.
How is she with eye contact, does she look at you and communicate?  I am sure you have done some research and it does sound like something that needs further investigation.

Maybe it is nothing, but it is worth checking it out I think.