Father love too much

[bellytelly]

Hi i'm a 17 year old girl. and i don't know whats happening. I've lately had to undergo some therapy for depression, and I've had a lot of memories brought back up. A lot of them have to do with my father whom I have a ice thin relationship with. Anyways when I was younger I had to live with my dad during the weekdays and my mom on the weekends. Now its reversed. So I've recently been starting to think if my father loves me too much. When i was younger he always wanted to be taking naps with me, I would either sleeping on his chest or next to him, he liked to hold me. He also use to cut my hair up until i was in 5th grade, he'd make me strip of my clothes while he cut my hair. My dad is always telling me how much he loves me, he always wants to be near me, and is very possessive of his time with me. He'll sometimes make comments on how big my butt or boobs are. He'll even say that if he were my age he would love to be dating me. He always calls me his love. If I'm trying to lay on the couch he'll grab my ankles and lay them across his lap and hell stroke my legs. He always tries to bring sex up with me. He still comments that after a scary movie if i'm scared i can come sleep in his room. When we go on vacations he'll always get a king size bed, he says its big enough for us to share. I always sleep on the pull out sofa though. he will sometimes will be trying to tickle me and he'll always move toward my butt area. I once said i was too hot, and he said "well do you have the hots for me" Hes always saying he loves me soo much. I don't know maybe i'm being paranoid, i'm no expert but is any of this weird or.

[allmymarbles]

Don't sleep over at your Dad's anymore. You have reached the age of consent in this regard and can make the choice yourself.

[Kayannaboo]

I completely understand how u feel and from the sounds of it, u have every right to feel as if ur father has a hidden agenda. It is important for u to tell him that u feel uncomfortable and that he needs to stop doing the things you listed above.

Abuse is also actions and words and sometimes things are not clear cut and we get so confused that we convince ourselves that we are paranoid...I have been there a member of my family used to do questionable things to me. It is also important to not spend so much time with him. Even though he is ur dad he is still a person, a human being just like me and u and that makes him likely to be harmful. Taking urself out of the situation is a form of prevention, I am not at all saying cut off ur dad. Actually by limiting the amount of time u spend will limit the moments of discomfort and allow u to have a healthy relationship with ur father. it is about understanding the balance of things and setting boundaries so that all parties can benefit.

Keep speaking with ur counsellor and keep us posted. Take care.

[overopiates]

Rayne is right+seems2have experience w/this type of situation too.My dad died when I was4so I dont really know much as far as father/daughter dinamics but it sounds weird to me.

[margypops]

Is this for real, we have a few trolls recently

[nexus788]

Cut the holidays with your dad and limit contact with him.

[overopiates]

Well if this is an accurate portrait then it sounds... well icky.U need to explain to him that he is making u uncomfortable.Explain exactly what he does+says to make u uncomfortable.Is he a single guy?I ask because it sounds like he is projecting the attention he would on a mate onto u.I definitely don't want to minimize anything just realize if he is making u feel wierd and u have to ask if its inappropriate then its inappropriate at least for YOU.Speak up

[ticked]

Honestly that doesnt sound right and you have every right to feel worried and he has no right to make you feel like this.

It makes me think that he is waiting for you to make a move on him which is all I can see when I read your post.  

This is not a good situation to be in.  Do you know if he did anything to you when you are younger?

[stupid216]

Just TELL HIM "DAD this makes me uncomfortable" then move on and stop thinking about it. He should become totally aware that your uncomfortable and he will adjust his behavior. I am sure he may be shocked to hear what you think. Or not?