This is a very old thread and the folks may not be around . It seems to me reading your post that you are in an abusive relationship,and your husband needs some counseling ,you may want to tell him you are not happy with his behavior and if he doesnt stop you will leave, you have to mean it, if he really wants to change and loves you he will get some help. Verbal abuse it very demeaning and it will efect you self esteem and your Life. When he yells walk away do not take it, no one has to ..if he doesnt want to change .just GO do not be afraid .
I am going through the same thing, except i dont have kids....I believe my husband is verbaly abusive too. The only thing is mine happens alot more frequently, like twice a week if not more. It seems like everything i do is wrong he yells at me and cusses me to the point i get scared of him. If i stand up to him it makes it worse. We havent been married long at all. But i so feel your pain and i can relate to all you have said. My husband and i BOTH work and he can spend whatever he wants but when i spend even $5 he fusses, he has even went to the bank and got a print off of what i spend....its a little creepy how close he watches over me....some times i think did i make the wrong decision. I wish you luck along with all the other women who goes through this....
I was frightened to read your original post. My father had tirades like that with my mother. He sexually abused me and beat me and a brother all the time. All I can say is get the coundseling--maybe some group counseling, also.
Watch how he treats the kids. I am sorry you are going through this. I know that your situation is not my childhood situation, but he has a lot of work to do.
Yes, it does make perfect sense. You can't help someone else until you help yourself. You are doing everything right. I am so glad to hear how strong you are getting. You can and will overcome this.
I am gonna go to counseling for myself first to get all my ducks in a row, then I am gonna approach him about it. In the past when I brought up counseling he stated no way would he go and was very angry and yada..... I will exhaust all of my options with him first then I will go for options for me after that. In the mean time, still trying to make plans incase things do not go to my plan. Does that make sense?
Shanna, would he be willing to go to counseling with you? It's very possible he would like to change but just needs help. I always try to see the best and/or positive in people. Maybe he doesn't like how he's acting either but just doesn't know how to change and needs help. I'd recommend counseling for the two of you and an anger management class for him, if he'd be agreeable. It's always best if the two of you can get along even if you divorce, for the kids sake.
I wish you the best.