I have a live-in boyfriend that recently had back surgery. I do understand that there is much pain. He has abused pills since he was 15; he is now 28. He was sober for almost a year when his back went out. Now, he is on Xanax, Norco, and Soma. He abuses them all, especially the soma. his doctor was giving him 120 pills, which would only last him about 4 days. I personally asked the dr to cut him off, and I was told he would. Now, he can fill a 3 day script for 20 pills - every 3 days. These pills are gone in 24 hours. With xanax, he gets aggressive and wants to fight and break things. norco just gets him "lit." Last night, I caught him trying to shoot up Adderral, but I destroyed it. How do spouses/partners deal with this? I love him, and there are many times where he gets upset because he is trying so hard to stay sober, so I know he wants to be. He can't work until his back heals, which he claims is the reason he abuses. Can anyone offer me any help? Please...