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I've been with my boyfriend for almost a yr, 3.5 months pregnant by him and I have 2 other children... I had a talk with my boyfriend Fri which led to an argument which caused him to say something disrespectful to me and he proceeded to walk out the front door... I pushed him out the door, he punched me n the collar bone I punched him n the face so he punched me in the lip where I flew 10 feet and my lip got sliced open where I got 9 stitches on the outside of my lip and 3 stitches on the inside of my lip on 5-6-11... Rite now I just need time away from him... I just wonder if he went to counseling will things be better...???
These are opinions here, I don't think there is ever any good reason for a man to hit a woman ,you said you pushed him out of the door leading me to the assumption that you started the trouble , then he hit you so you hit back, to me it got out of control.I don't think it will work out ,you should leave him ..
Absolutely, Tina. You get to choose how to run your life, and if you don't agree with my opinion, that's totally your choice.
Best wishes.
Best wishes.
That's ur opinion but my house my rules... whether or not ITS NEVER OK FOR A MAN TO HIT A WOMAN...!!! AND HONESTLY I DON'T CARE IF U AGREE OR DISAGREE that's y its UR opinion...
Tina, it's your life, but I think you are placing yourself in danger starting a physical altercation with a man while you are pregnant.
Or while you aren't for that matter. Physical violence in a relationship has no place, regardless of who starts it or whether anyone is pregnant.
And I disagree that it's never okay for a man to hit a woman. It's never okay for anyone to hit anyone else, except in self-defense, and if you're having to defend yourself against the one person in your life who is supposed to protect and love you - and you are supposed to do the same for him - something is completely awry here.
I think if this is going to work at all - BOTH of you need to say WHOA what in the world happened there, we're not doing that again ever! There's no reason to defend yourself and say you will hit again if you feel disrespected in your house again.
That's not moving forward.
Best wishes.
Or while you aren't for that matter. Physical violence in a relationship has no place, regardless of who starts it or whether anyone is pregnant.
And I disagree that it's never okay for a man to hit a woman. It's never okay for anyone to hit anyone else, except in self-defense, and if you're having to defend yourself against the one person in your life who is supposed to protect and love you - and you are supposed to do the same for him - something is completely awry here.
I think if this is going to work at all - BOTH of you need to say WHOA what in the world happened there, we're not doing that again ever! There's no reason to defend yourself and say you will hit again if you feel disrespected in your house again.
That's not moving forward.
Best wishes.
MARGYPOPS well this dude was my first 12yrs ago and when we were together for those 2yrs he wasn't abusive at all never not once... now idk what's happened between those yrs... the Guy i was married to i was forced to get married because i was pregnant and he was abusive a few times... and the first Guy abusive i stopped dealing with after a yr when he told me he was gonna kill me if i didn't come home and i called the cops...
ROCKROSE maybe I was wrong cool but I don't care u are ur not gonna be disrespectful to me in my house and talk down to me like ur better then me... but either way Its NEVER ok for a man to raise his hand nor hit a woman...
But I can respect couple counseling from both of u...
ROCKROSE maybe I was wrong cool but I don't care u are ur not gonna be disrespectful to me in my house and talk down to me like ur better then me... but either way Its NEVER ok for a man to raise his hand nor hit a woman...
But I can respect couple counseling from both of u...
Sounds to me like you started the physical part of the fight, while he was retreating.
I think since you are pregnant, and have two kids there to watch your example, getting in a physical fight with your boyfriend is absolutely the wrong path to take.
If you plan on staying together it sounds like couples counseling would be helpful, so both of you don't slug away at each other anymore.
I think since you are pregnant, and have two kids there to watch your example, getting in a physical fight with your boyfriend is absolutely the wrong path to take.
If you plan on staying together it sounds like couples counseling would be helpful, so both of you don't slug away at each other anymore.
Maybe I misinterpreted what you meant when you told us you pushed him out of the door.,it sounded somewhat abusive however I see that he has a real problem with anger .May I ask how you come to pick them?
My thing is that he knows I've been in 2 abusive relationships prior and one I was married in... So to say we both played a role in it that's y I voweled to myself I'll never not put up a fight...
It sounds as if you also had a share in this behavior ,my answer is you could try but usually if a man behaves that violently towards a woman he wont change it will happen again when he loses control, you could the both of you try anger counseling..My concern will always be the child /children of such a relationship, volatile to say the least, they would be born ,grow up hearing and seeing abuse, it will affect their whole life ,it will make them afraid.So think carefully not just for you but for the child you are bearing's future ...
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