is it abuse?

[unknownforever]

I am 17 years old, I've been daiting my boyfriend for four months. He tells me I can't spend time with some people(well anyone). He tells me that in lying all the time when I'm really not. I can't have any guy friends I'm also not allowed to be with my own sister. The reason he doesn't want me to be with my sister was because she smokes pot (but she has stopped) she's my bestfriend and I miss her but I get yelled at and accused that I would do what she does. My mom and my brother are whom I live with and they both smoke cigs and I have horable asthma and he doesn't want me around it but I kinda can't help it because I live here and he yells at me for being around it. Another thing is school he hates that I go to school because all the guys there he thinks I'm going to cheat on him and I never would this kid means the world to me and I tell him that everyday. I always seem to be doing things wrong everyday and he brakes up with me but I cry and he stays. Let me remind you he is adoptid and his birthmother tells me that he is bipoler. He told me he his scared to be abanded again and has no trust. Am I the one in the wrong? I don't leave him because he's my first and he seems that he cares. Am I the one in the wrong?

[unknownforever]

hahahaaa. Yeah I was thinking about that. This morning surprised me because he texted me and was like" do you love me for me despite the way I act and treat you " so I think he is hitting realty now and knowing I'm not gunna put up with the stupid crap. I think he's coming around. (:

[nina_stuck_in_purgatory]

people are telling you to leave him, but i understand that he is your first. you love him. i get it.
so before you leave him, talk to him about it and give him a second chance. remember to make it a big point that you love him and that you are afraid and how you don't want to leave him. confront him, but remind him that you care about him.
i think it is abuse, but im girl who believes in second chances.
ESPECIALLY when it comes to men.
they are the stupidest things on this earth aside from bricks. ;)
no offense guys

[unknownforever]

I don't wanna become a mom yet I'm 17 I don't plan to have one until I'm 28 I still wanna finish school go to college I have my life planned out and the plan doesn't have a baby in it yet.

[allmymarbles]

The last thing you need right now is a baby. That would tie you to this man for life. So take all precautions. You have plenty of time to become a mother. I never even started on that road until if was 32.

[unknownforever]

yeah. But I just recenly ended my period and then we had sex like 4 days after. So I need to not think that way.

[margypops]

well you see the consensus here, unless he wants to change it will always be this way..you said you 'hope you get your period' my guess at that would mean you think you may be pregnant ?