PLEASE READ,LONG but details r important OPINIONS PLEASE

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After a5yr hiatus from a job outside the home(have a4+1/2yr old+was also my hubbys receptionist/do-girl for his computer&gaming console repair business).Thought I'd get out,get a job not using my degree just go back2waiting tables cause I was a server+manager since I was17.my1st app. I got hired@a place4min. from my house,manager seemed cool (young @27as a G.M. but I respected that I was a GM@22 myself).Got n there&(not patting myself on the back Ive had A LOT of experience)I immediately was praised by the whole staff for being so good@my job(w/that much experience I better be good@it&its not rocket science lol).I also QUICKLY became known4 what I consider team work(cleaning others tables,doing ALL sidework etc.)Amazes me how much effort people will put n2NOT doing there work,its easier2just do it myself lol.A couple things happened that made me throw my hands up&quit.Also I was offered assistant manager w/n2wks which I decined as no pay raise&I came2c the job meant I would b called non stop,called n w/ANY issue etc cause the G.M. was there from5a.m. til2p.m.5days a wk but was drunk,wont answer his phone as soon as he leaves(no manager on nite shift at all).N resturants people r friendly(often a little.flirty but its all n good fun).Happens@EVERY place Ive worked.I can get along w/any1&did quickly IM MARRIED& it was FAR from a secret as I talked about them all the time,Rob+Hayden came n ALL the time2eat etc.I got lots of NICE POLITE compliments like ur husbands a really lucky guy,its really nice2have a pretty girl working here who is always happy,isnt stuck up or trashy(lol)BUT1guy went BEYOND too far.He started being REALLY creepy after a couple wks of just being normal&friendly til then.Spent2hrs grabbing me,trying2kiss me,trying2corner me.It was nuts.I(NO JOKE)was sweeping this fool kept coming up on me,I'd push him away but right then my hands were full SO I head butted him.He FINALLY left.We told the manager as soon as he came n.NOTHING DONE.From then on this guy was inappropriate always saying stuff2me,not looking STARING@my chest/backside until I would look@him&he'd say"I wasnt trying2hide it I was looking".He'd come behind me sniff me,get so close2me I'd push him away etc.He told my co-workers lies BIG ONES.All got back2me&I confronted him he said he never said any of it.He told people me&my husband r splitting up, that we kissed&held hands n the parking lot,he went2three male co-workers(these r the1's who told me)said NUMEROUS times to"back off cause we r dating","not2give me a hug or say things cause Im his girl"things along those lines. It was all told by me&EVEN MORE by2males I work w/to our G.M. about how he was acting,how creepy he was being,how they have2 watch him around me cause Im constanly telling him2 stop,leave me alone etc.B4it got BEYOND creepy they would talk about how "Sabrina has all the guys in love w/her"they would laugh I shrugged it off.The manager laughed BUT when the guys were telling him the creepy stuff,I was telling how uncomfortable I was etc he still thought it was hilarious.This creepy cook even got the manager2switch him from mornings 2 nite shifts cause thats what I worked.Final straw was a couple things.1st after being praised as the best,hardest worker I asked my manager if he could switch me2some morning shifts(away from the creep+they r busier+since he is actually there people do more of there work),he said absolutely,making schedule that day&its never the same.I made it VERY clear I DIDNT want2work w/creeper@nite too.Next day my schedule is ALL night shifts w/him,2overnite shifts w/1cook1server,no manager,8hrs alone with this creep.NOPE I WAS DONE!When I wnt2check my schedule I had2cooks+2servers ask me why CREEPY is sayin me&my son r moving n w/him,saying I said"my son needs a good father figure".They knew@this point he'd been lying about me&"our relationship he made up n his head",he also sent himself pictures of me off my phone w/o my knowledge or consent(b4u ask NO not inappropriate pics just pics if me smiling&1w/me+my son).When overnite shift came I didnt show up or call or respond to10+calls from my boss calling4-2days from his phone,the creep calling me from work etc.The boss ignored me when he knew what was going on&lied2me about giving me a diffferent schedule&I felt it was clear WHY I quit.I dnt deserve2go2work2b so uncomfortable I was having severe anxiety b4work knowing I would b working w/this guy,being touched, inappropriately,commented2,leered@& lied about.I told him2stop,told my manager & 2 other cooks did as well about them watching out4me when creep is there.The boss thought it was funny,disregaurded my feelings,didnt think I would quit because Im responseable(he actually said"I know that u wont just quit&leave me hanging cause ur the only server I can count on,thats always responsable,always works hard&every1gets along with).So the crap schedule2b forced2do others work&manager which is a job I declined is1thing but not only letting some1severely sexually harrass me but laugh about it,put me on every shift WITH the guy cause there friends was too much.Ive got the2guys who r cooks both calling/texting  saying they will write statements4me,Im getting n touch w/the district manager2file a complaint on the cook&the manager.Found out2day the cook lost his manager job@a different store4harrassment.Also the manager showed up yesterday where my husband works2ask him why I quit,he told him&the liar said"I knew nothing about that or I would've fired him".Heres my question EVERYONES telling me2sue them(corperate resturant btw).I dnt wnt2do that I just wnt action taken against the creepy cook&jerk manager who let this continue.WHAT DO U THINK I SHOULD DO???

[vicki595]

I'm proud of you for following through on this...this guy should not get away with the way he treated you!  Do you live in a fairly small town?

Keep me updated!

[clean_in_ks]

Hey Sabrina....SO SORRY this had to happen to you.....just read the whole deal and am SO glad you listened to Vicki AND your "inner voice" and went to the police station w/Dan.

It's amazing that integrity, honesty and respect simply just "don't exist" for a lot of folks these days.  My heart hurts for you.....that you had to even
experience all of this......You're clean and sober.....you have a wunnerful
hubby.......and you are woman of integrity, honesty and have a true desire to "just do the next right thing".  

Thank you for coming here and sharing this...(and not letting the stressful situation just "simmer".......it may help someone in a way none of us could ever imagine.

Blessings to you in a BIG WAY, Sabrina....hope you have a GRAND wkend~
Connie  

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Treated that way.We also told the police George is well known2come n drunk(never said a word although OBVIOUS!)But is uncle(younger tuan him,nice guy),not sure of Tobys diagnosis but he has some form of learning diablility/what ia the diagnosis but he said about George(w/Bruce standing3ft away that Georger was dinkomg since9a.m@2hes scheduled.Bruce called me back asked if he heard thay right"I heara what u did Bruce corners Toby asks if George is drunk Toby didnt wnt2get George n troublhe said"u know he gets drunk everyday.MANAGER DIDNT DO a thing.WAIT he did,Bruce jas him work16hrs straight.waitin2here feom.the officee

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OH we wnt n2the tiny police station.I explained the situation2the dispatcher@the front.She has us sit@an officers desk.He said I did the EXACT right thing by coming there1st so I have a report(Dans2telling what he knew,saw,told Bruce about it,saw/heard Ricky telling Bruce/Matt walking back hearing it etc).The officer got really mad about how i was treated etc.He said he wished I'd come n sooner BUT glad I came n b4meeting w/Matt(officer said NOT2meet w/him@the planned time,wait4 the officer2contact  me).He did say George CLEARLY broke the law(cnt remember all but some were sexual harassment,sexual assult,battery+others)&said him backing me n the cooler/me not being able 2get out COULD possibly false imprisionment I was SHOCKED about that"possible charge"cause thats huge.Also said the managers(Bruce&Matt) could b charged w/stuff2 NOT JUST LOSE THERE JOBS if they were informed/notified&did Nothing.Bruce is 100%guilty of that.Dnt know about Matt(Bruces' boss),I KNOW he lnew something(I assume some verbal harassment2 an extent)not sure what though.Dan was/is great.Ironic we both wrote statements/complaints n different rooms but so much was identical.Officer said I(we)did the right thing, no1deserves2be treate

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I decided2make the police report BEFORE I meet w/the district manager(Matt)for a few reasons,main1being I feel like IF I waited,didnt have a report filed w/the police&went2a meeting w/Matt,I would be@a disadvantage+I want2have the upper hand.I truelly hope he takes what I say as seriously BUT I think it will b FAKE.Im sure he will say he is shocked,will do"something" & apologize etc BUT its been 5days since I quit,he comes2that location2-3times a wk,n the morning/early afternoon shift when the g.m.(Bruce)IS there.I know who works those shifts as well.I feel at this point Matt has got2know what he was told as the reason I quit. I assume this because I didnt c Matt much since I worked mostly nites BUT I saw him often enough he knows me,thanked me4my hardwork&offered me the assistant man. position,we've joked around,I KNOW he knew about at least some of the things going on w/me being inappropriately spoken too&LIED about because a cook named Ricky who would tell all them about the stuff  the creeper named George did/said was telling Bruce about the George telling him(Ricky)not2touch,flirt, talk2me cause we were dating&Matt(district manager) walked back,asked who Ricky who,was telling Bruce,myself &some1 else the story&Ricky told Matt EXACTLY who/what was going on w/George lying,making me uncomfortabe I got visibly aggitated,said"u have got2b joking,he needs2call husband&tell HIM this BS"+angerly walked from the back2the front.As I think of that I realize CLEARLY the Bruce didnt just"drop the ball" I feel like it was amusement2 him,he didnt care/help when notified&actually put me ON ALL shifts w/the George on purpose cause they r friends,previous wk George complained we didnt wk2gether much&he was gonna do something(I said Im very happy w/this schedule)then all shifts w/him.I realize WITHOUT A DOUBT Matt(district man.)was aware of@least some of this&did nothing.Once I quit it was made clear by Ricky&Dan(both cooks present4-99%of this)said I quit because of George as I told them BOTH I was gonna end up quitting over it b4I did&those girls LOVE2gossip. Also Bruce went2my husbands location&asked him+Rob told him EXACTLY why I quit(Bruce played dumb of course).So I feel the police report going n is ABSOLUTELY necessary2bring2my meeting2morrow so he knows this is serious.I think the ONLY reason the manager sought out my car(my hubby was driving it though)is he KNEW why I quit ,claimed he was so concerned etc but I think he was trying2c if I was going2 sue,make official complaint&ONLY covering his A$$.I think Matt should have contacted me after this on his own.NO1of authority took ANY action.Dan has helped the most,tried2protect me,put n his notice,made a statement2day @police station+willing2do whatever2help me because he knows its wrong,this isnt a job he Has2keep.

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Thank u so much.U r absolutely right.I have a meeting set up w/the district manager2speak w/him privately.Should I go now and make a report or wait til I speak to him?I really dont want anyone else to be put n that position.Im lucky enough that I was able2quit w/o another job lined up yet because my husband works but what if that wasnt the case.Its been driving me nuts because what if some1else is treated this way but needs that job ir there kids dont eat.Im taking action today.The guy Ive kept n contact w/who is MORE than happy2do a statement because he was present for so much of this,he put n his2wks notice(this is a2nd p/t job for him&he is disgusted by all of it)text ke this morning2give me the diatrict managers#&asked id I wnt2meet him around lunch time if I decide2make a police report(he is a good guy).Thank u for letting me know Im not overreacting.

[sassanita]

I agree with Vicki 100%..call the police! let this creep know ITS NOT OK TO TOUCH WOMEN

[vicki595]

The moment he touched you, he broke the law. It's called battery. Any unwelcomed contact from another individual is battery.

It's YOUR responsibility to report this to the police because it,happened to YOU. The GM can also file a report but it should be you. There needs to be a record.  What this guy did was unlawful and he violated MANY workplace laws. For one thing, he created a hostile work environment...

He violated your civil liberties in a BIG way and you had to give up your job because of the harassment!  That's wrong.  File a complaint and contact the civil liberties union/office in your area. They'll represent you for free if you want to make a case out of it...and you should.  That whole crew needs to go and you should have your job back.

Then there's always "country justice"... I'm not sure if you're familiar with that...lol

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OH I actually thought something WAS said2him because when I went n2the last shift before I quit&4the1st time he didnt immediately start being aggresive.He did ask me while he was prepping&we were n the back of the resturant alone why I dont give him a hug,then asked why I dnt text him(all our#'s r posted4the staff2c n the back.He text me previously and b4he acted creepy I responded we chatted that1time.After that he got weird.My final straw was me getting glared@while getting ice,him asking why I dnt unbutton the last1on the top of my shirt so he could c my breasts(didnt say it that polite)&said Id make more money.I didnt repond.He was slicong those big onions.Grabbed2looked@my chest then said yup juat about right.I said thats not cool stop&he responded by making an obsene gesture w/the onions(like he was motor boating&said he wished he could do that2me).That was my final straw/breaking point.As I said there r cameras back the too ao its taped

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I am confused though about what u said about making a police report.I dnt understand why I would have2make a police report if I not only notified the manager,others did as well and he knew all about this.Isnt it the managers responsablity to take care of issue.Why would any1have2make a police report(I wasnt raped or anything like that)I was harrassed obviously.I regret not immediately going over the g.m. to the district manager&making a written complaint before quitting though.I didnt demand2make a report2my immediate superior(the g.m. who thought it was a joke)because these people all have been working2gether a long time&I WAS trying2ignore it&continue working there+hoped he would get the message that something needed2 said to the creep when I asked4a schedule opposite the creep because I was so uncomfortable&didnt want everyone that is his buddy(including the manager)to hate me.I know logically that doesnt matter n retrospect but that was my idiotic logic.

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Thank u Vicki.I DONT want to sue them.I just think reporting them to the superiors is what I will do.This place has tons of cameras too+they can look@them2c this guy grabbing me etc. I think I will call and report this tomorrow.Especially since this guy has previous complaints for harrassment.

[vicki595]

You need to file a complaint with the police and really should have done that when the problem began.  If you try to sue, the first thing their Atty will ask you is if you called the police to report this...

You were right to quit!