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Percocet Addiction
can someone help me?
i want to let you all know a little bit about my situation. ive been with my wife for almost 2 years now. well we just got married in May. since ive known her she has always taken percocets. one year prior to her and i meeting, she was in a near fatal accident with her ex, she suffered severe back pain from the incedent. so she was prescribed percocets, but when i met her, she was no longer prescribed them, she was buying them off the streets. now, her friends arent very helpful, in fact the maid of honor at our wedding is a very bad influence because she as well has a percocet addiction and alot of the time gets my wife to go and get them for her. it really started to get worse after we got married and came back from our honeymoon. she is a totally different person now, very lazy, she quit her job, and now works part time with her mother and spends all of her money buying percocets every other day shes going back to get more from the same guy. and that is another problem, i have reason to believe that she is sleeping with her dealer. why? i am in a band and one night i get a random text message from her while i am practicing saying "ill send it again" i replied "send what again?" an hour or so goes by and i get the reply "oh i was sending a picture to my friend of the dog" well 3 am rolls around i couldnt sleep so i looked to see what picture she sent of the dog. the first thing i see is two pictures of her naked butt. i check her messages all where erased but our phones tell you who the recent contact was, it was her perc dealer's number and his email address. her "friend" was no where to be found....i am not stupid and i knew she had lied to me, i just didnt have hard proof, she said she was bored, and that was a lie because she is very self concious about her body because she has such a big butt, (lol sorry but its true) she not fat, she is absolutely beautiful. well a few days pass and i bring it up to her again saying that i dont believe the story she gave me, she got all bent out of shape and cried hysterically for hours and swore to me that she will never go around this guy ever again, less than a week later they were texting and she was going back for more pills. to bring you up to speed. her addiction is making this marriage suffer, she is only 21 years old im 24. i am doing everything from paying the bills( which i dont make enough to pay everything) to doing all of the house work, she sits home and does nothing all day. now our sex life is laughable, i feel like a 60 year old man that has to plan 1 calander day a year just to have sex with the woman i love, its killing me, when we met and thereafter she was always affectionate, and always wanted to be around me and love on me, now i get the silent treatment, i get it all thrown back on my with guilt trips she says things like, "you dont trust me, you think i dont love you, i hate myself, i ruin everything" all i ever try to do is call her out on her problem, and yet i get pushed away, she just tells me what i want to hear, and manipulates me into thinking that i am just being an *******, like i enjoy making her cry. i dont i am a very nice guy, i hate drama, i hate being like this, i am running out of options, i feel if i leave her for a little while than maybe she would realize that what she is doing is serious, i mean she bums money off of her family so we can pay our bills, and then also to buy her pills. they are clueless....andi am made to feel like i am not worthy of their lil princess because we are sturggling and have to ask for money every month to just pay our bills. i am hesitant to get them involved because i want her to want to change with out having to go that route, but it still gets me nowhere, last night we got into it because, right now we are sharing a car, and i got off at 7pm, she was at her drug dealers house cutting hair and coloring his girlfriends hair. 8:03 rolls around and i asked her where she was, she said i am on my way. 8:45 rolls around and i had to hear from my good friend that she was just then leaving to get me from work. she couldnt even tell me that, only to find out that she yet again got more percs, after getting some the day before yesterday. i flipped out, and she said i was overreacting,. and gave me the silent treatment for getting upset. so i slept in my spare room , i wrote her a 4 page letter, and the only reply i got was another guilt trip, she even tries to justify how much she takes, and when you are going 4 to 5 days out of the week and buying pills, that still enough to constitute a problem. while we are facing eviction from our beautiful town home, she would rather expect me to take care of it all while she goes out and does what she wants. i am made to feel like the bad guy, we rarley talk, we seldomly are affectionate and we only have sex when she takes a pill and feels up to it (rarely). she only seems happy and talkative when she gets around her friends because they have no clue and dont judge her, i feel as though she is pushing me away. and would rather be around someone that doesnt care what she does, this is the girl i married because i love her with all that i am, i couldnt picture myself with another person. she is my whole world and now its falling apart at the seams. can someone shed some light on my situation? thank you in advance.
i want to let you all know a little bit about my situation. ive been with my wife for almost 2 years now. well we just got married in May. since ive known her she has always taken percocets. one year prior to her and i meeting, she was in a near fatal accident with her ex, she suffered severe back pain from the incedent. so she was prescribed percocets, but when i met her, she was no longer prescribed them, she was buying them off the streets. now, her friends arent very helpful, in fact the maid of honor at our wedding is a very bad influence because she as well has a percocet addiction and alot of the time gets my wife to go and get them for her. it really started to get worse after we got married and came back from our honeymoon. she is a totally different person now, very lazy, she quit her job, and now works part time with her mother and spends all of her money buying percocets every other day shes going back to get more from the same guy. and that is another problem, i have reason to believe that she is sleeping with her dealer. why? i am in a band and one night i get a random text message from her while i am practicing saying "ill send it again" i replied "send what again?" an hour or so goes by and i get the reply "oh i was sending a picture to my friend of the dog" well 3 am rolls around i couldnt sleep so i looked to see what picture she sent of the dog. the first thing i see is two pictures of her naked butt. i check her messages all where erased but our phones tell you who the recent contact was, it was her perc dealer's number and his email address. her "friend" was no where to be found....i am not stupid and i knew she had lied to me, i just didnt have hard proof, she said she was bored, and that was a lie because she is very self concious about her body because she has such a big butt, (lol sorry but its true) she not fat, she is absolutely beautiful. well a few days pass and i bring it up to her again saying that i dont believe the story she gave me, she got all bent out of shape and cried hysterically for hours and swore to me that she will never go around this guy ever again, less than a week later they were texting and she was going back for more pills. to bring you up to speed. her addiction is making this marriage suffer, she is only 21 years old im 24. i am doing everything from paying the bills( which i dont make enough to pay everything) to doing all of the house work, she sits home and does nothing all day. now our sex life is laughable, i feel like a 60 year old man that has to plan 1 calander day a year just to have sex with the woman i love, its killing me, when we met and thereafter she was always affectionate, and always wanted to be around me and love on me, now i get the silent treatment, i get it all thrown back on my with guilt trips she says things like, "you dont trust me, you think i dont love you, i hate myself, i ruin everything" all i ever try to do is call her out on her problem, and yet i get pushed away, she just tells me what i want to hear, and manipulates me into thinking that i am just being an *******, like i enjoy making her cry. i dont i am a very nice guy, i hate drama, i hate being like this, i am running out of options, i feel if i leave her for a little while than maybe she would realize that what she is doing is serious, i mean she bums money off of her family so we can pay our bills, and then also to buy her pills. they are clueless....andi am made to feel like i am not worthy of their lil princess because we are sturggling and have to ask for money every month to just pay our bills. i am hesitant to get them involved because i want her to want to change with out having to go that route, but it still gets me nowhere, last night we got into it because, right now we are sharing a car, and i got off at 7pm, she was at her drug dealers house cutting hair and coloring his girlfriends hair. 8:03 rolls around and i asked her where she was, she said i am on my way. 8:45 rolls around and i had to hear from my good friend that she was just then leaving to get me from work. she couldnt even tell me that, only to find out that she yet again got more percs, after getting some the day before yesterday. i flipped out, and she said i was overreacting,. and gave me the silent treatment for getting upset. so i slept in my spare room , i wrote her a 4 page letter, and the only reply i got was another guilt trip, she even tries to justify how much she takes, and when you are going 4 to 5 days out of the week and buying pills, that still enough to constitute a problem. while we are facing eviction from our beautiful town home, she would rather expect me to take care of it all while she goes out and does what she wants. i am made to feel like the bad guy, we rarley talk, we seldomly are affectionate and we only have sex when she takes a pill and feels up to it (rarely). she only seems happy and talkative when she gets around her friends because they have no clue and dont judge her, i feel as though she is pushing me away. and would rather be around someone that doesnt care what she does, this is the girl i married because i love her with all that i am, i couldnt picture myself with another person. she is my whole world and now its falling apart at the seams. can someone shed some light on my situation? thank you in advance.
thank you scaredmom. and North2South, to answer your question...to be honest i've taken them with her literally 2 countable times this was in the beginning though and i only took 1, 10mg pill the 2 times i did it. i decided that they were not for me.
My heart goes out to you. you both are so young and have so much living to do yet. you do need to check out alanon or even private therapy. you are a victim of her addiction. I agree it would be a good idea to talk to her parents. they can help both of you. stay strong, stay with us. We will support you. good luck. I guess I really didnt have anything to add but just my support and concerns.
i want to ask you a serious question...so please don't take it the wrong way. Do you or have you ever done pills with her? I ask cause i once was in a very similar situation.
You're welcome sweet pea and keep me posted.... Cuz, I really do care...
You are so young with so many possiblities and a WHOLE LIFE IN FRONT OF YOU.
You are so young with so many possiblities and a WHOLE LIFE IN FRONT OF YOU.
Honey...., You are in a bad situation! I wish I could tell you WHAT TO DO.. but that's not my job... All I can suggest is that you find yourself an Alanon or Naranon meeting and (maybe, if you have the courage) tell her parents.... It sometimes helps when you have some support... You are sooooo young and have SUCH A GOOD POSSIBLE LIFE in front of you (and your wife, if she CHOOSES to get clean...only she can do that with your support!) God bless you sweet pea... you sound like you are hurting so badly and my thoughts and prayers are with you....
Keep posting too cuz this site can be a LIFE SAVER!
Hugs & Prayers to you and your wife!
NorcoQueen
Keep posting too cuz this site can be a LIFE SAVER!
Hugs & Prayers to you and your wife!
NorcoQueen
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