Why dont people stay on the forum

[bama88]

Ive noticed alot of good intentions here from people wanting to quit. I also noticed a pattern of people getting clean and then leaving. Does people think once they get clean they dont need us anymore?

Also if they slip up and use again are they so ashamed of being here? Is it something we say that makes them leave?

Or do they fail to put in the hard work? They arrive here in crisis mode and we support. We encourage. Then poof they are gone. I want your opinion on this subject?

I feel if your 100% commited to stoping. You need to be with rhis forum for awhile. Whether your detoxing thru tapering or cold turkey hanging around to help helps your sobriety. Plus its comforting to know were all in this together and the support and new friendships ease the lonliness and fears. Also its rewarding to help another addict. It reafirms your strength and support. whats your opinion

[Dane74]

OHHH bama,

So happy you brought this up as i am one of those people that disappeared:( I did not by choice at first, i managed to taper with the help of medhelp and a few great friends on here, especially vicki XOXO!  After my crisis mode and getting clean bam i relapsed due to pain.  Unfortunately i am still on pills for pain management i just couldn't bare the pain and YES i tried too, but it is so depressing when all i wanted was to be off these devil pills to only be back on.  I do take as directed and the dr is very aware of my problem between addiction and pain.  So when i continued to post the moderators would kick me off to another forum (pain management) and i dont want to be on that forum as i know all of you on this forum, so my feelings did get hurt that all the times i needed help from my friends on here i was kicked off to strangers, call me dramatic but i love y'all here.  So i am also the lurker on here, i read posts and attempt to post to help others and then i delete what i wrote because i feel i have no right to offer advice to others while i am taking the pills.  For awhile there i was posting quite often during my clean time and then i stopped it.  bama, like i have told you before you are an inspiration, i was on when you first joined while you were going through your crisis mode and girl you came a long way, i am so proud of you!!!!  Thank you for your amazing support to others in need and for posting this thread:)))   Dana

[texaslady68]

Bama, great topic.  I myself have 28 days clean and have been on this site pretty much every single day with the exception of a few days when i am too busy at work or have alot to do with my kids when I get home.  

The support and encouragement I have gotten is amazing, as well as the advice, and I truly do not think I would be sober if it were not for the help.  I lurked for 2 months, I started looking up suboxane and whether or not i should get on it.  I decided after reading many posts not to take it and started reading the withdrawal advice.  You were one of the first people that reached out to me and I greatly appreciate you and I think we all have a bond because unless you have been through w/d, you dont have a clue...You can read about it all you want, but until you experience it, it is a vision only.

I am truly blessed and have managed to stay clean with no desire to go back.  I had a lightening bolt moment when i went out with a friend the other night.  She is on pills and drinks with them and has always been a little crazy...I have not been out with her in several years and really wanted to get out.  We get to the club and she bails on me when i start talking about what I went through getting clean.  I went and asked her what was wrong and she told me "I DO NOT WANT TO TALK ABOUT REAL LIFE".  I was like what the hell.  I said "Ok, would you like me to talk about rainbows and unicorns"??  I ended up calling my daughter to come get me and left without even telling her goodbye.  She is not a friend, she is an addict...

I would much rather be around people like everyone here that encourage me than people who call themselves friends and really dont care at all.

To everyone who has reached out to me, I just want to say Thank you and God Bless.  To everyone who is reading this and wanting to quit, please do it.  Life is so much better on the other side.  

[0421]

Thanks I need to hear that, I am glad bettermomma that something good happen on that day, I will remember to say happy birthday to you as it is a sad day for me.Sooooooooo  It is good to hear someone was born that day and I hope you succed in your journey of getting off your demon pills. For me it seems like there is a demon person after me, I get clean I fall of a chair and break me tail bone back on vicoden. Then get almost off and have to have 3 theeth pulled back on vicoden. Now I am going to have implants to replace the theeth so here we go again more vicoden. I am old but geeezzz I should not be falling apart this bad!!!  Someday ya someday I will  do it. prayers to you, Bethany

[london_man]

You have raised a good point and here is my honest answer:

I have only posted a few times over the past 4 months as I mainly read other peoples posts.  

I'm not sure if I will still be using this site in 6 months time - this is mainly due to me slowly getting my life back in order and I am taking up new activities such as job, gym, cycling etc. Hopefully I will still log in every now and then to see what has been posted.

The support on here has been AMAZING and it just shows that there are some fantastic people on this planet who are willing to offer advice to total strangers - this will always be thankful for :)

I feel that this board is a great place to come if I ever need some help or have any questions.

[selfinduced]

Just want to tell you not to EVER give up. We have all been in your shoes, you'll get there. xx

[bettermomma]

0421 that's my birthday, April 21, lol just thot that was ironic sorry..