Why dont people stay on the forum

[bama88]

Ive noticed alot of good intentions here from people wanting to quit. I also noticed a pattern of people getting clean and then leaving. Does people think once they get clean they dont need us anymore?

Also if they slip up and use again are they so ashamed of being here? Is it something we say that makes them leave?

Or do they fail to put in the hard work? They arrive here in crisis mode and we support. We encourage. Then poof they are gone. I want your opinion on this subject?

I feel if your 100% commited to stoping. You need to be with rhis forum for awhile. Whether your detoxing thru tapering or cold turkey hanging around to help helps your sobriety. Plus its comforting to know were all in this together and the support and new friendships ease the lonliness and fears. Also its rewarding to help another addict. It reafirms your strength and support. whats your opinion

[lulu747]

Hi Bamma
I think you brought up an excellent point (as usual) I, too think it's important that we post more about how we are living our clean lives as information for new members...New hope.  I try to check in twice a day and post when I can for those that are in need.  I don't read or 'lurk' much anymore because I'm so busy with work and life and putting myself back together....I especially try to be around on the weekend as it's the quietest time.  This forum has been a godsend and an education for me.  It's a great tool for recovery and also to reach out to those that need hope and support the most....
Love Lu

[dominosarah]

I have seen a bazillion people come thru here and go.  There are not that many who are left that came here when i did.  Most move on with their lives, some of them dont.  All we can do is cheer for the ones who are continuing on in their recovery and pray for the ones who are still out there.

[vicki595]

I DID read this and saw your PMS comment. Are you feeling better? lol

People tend to come and go and it is interesting to watch the trends...

There are more folks who are here and NOT posting than you would imagine!   People tend to drift once the major crisis is over and many find the forum depressing once they are in recovery. It's very individual.

When we do "roll call" you'll see a lot of friends check in...

[all_alone1]

I agree a lot of names I used to see when I first joined I don't see anymore....hopefull they as well are lurking about lol....

hello to all of you that are lurking about...new and old hope to see you comment soon

[cleangimnow]

I've been a member for a long time and pretty much lurk. You, gnarly, Sara, viki, and many more are great about giving advice. It's just hard to find the time with life continuing after the physical wds. However I am inspired to give back more.

[Wanttobebetter2011]

Hi Bama! I'm still here.  I check in and read posts when I get up and before I go to bed, I'm like some of the others.  Sometimes I don't have a lot to say, or I'm too tired to type, lol.  I guess i'm a "lurker" too.  I love this site, it is a part of my after care.  Reading a lot of these posts, especially if I had a bad day and my coping skills are down, keeps me honest with myself and gives me reassurance.  On day 28!