spoke to swag and his wife

[jayeye]

i am writting this on swags behalf.

I have been speaking to swag via text messages for the past few days........today his wife called me to find out more about the board and the people on here.....i had a nice convo with her....she was a little iffy at first but after speaking with her i convinced her that it would be a very good idea for her to come on the boards.


turns out swag as quite the anger managment problem...i think its a combanation of the things......but a big part of it has to do with his wife learnign to understand what he is going through.....she admitted she didnt really understand why it is so hard for some one to stop using or whatever......told her she will never truley understand if you never go throuhg it.....but if she came on the boards she would at least get a better understanding of the problem and that its not an easy battle.....i guess its a vicous cycle hes got going on there.....his wife dosent understand he gets mad and the saga continues.

anyway he really wants to work on this anger thing which he now realizes he has....he thought he might have gotten the boot from the site......and said he was sorry to all

[vicki595]

UGH!!    Now,I'm gonna start PRAYING you get that new job!!

Post tomorrow as soon as you hear...

V.

[dominosarah]

Vicki and i can play Dr Phyllis if you'd like!!!  LOL

I hope you get the other job.  It would help with the stress level for one thing.......Stick to your plan and we will be right there to support you.

Oh and one other thing...Play hard to get!!!

[avisg]

jaye,
I think its great that you talked swags wife .I hope she does come on .I think it will help .I hope it will be a postive thing for both of them .

[jayeye]

sarah you asked for it lol so now you get the jayeye fooled around and feel in love story.

aoubt 4 years ago i was transfred to another office....and thats where i meant her......we worked on different teams but it was apparent from the start that there was something there.....we would give eachother little cute smiles and what not....then one day i emailed her with some stupid work question (such an excuse just to get her attention) while it worked...we emailed back and forth every day for about a week....(the problem was she had a bf) obviously they werent happy....while we started hanging out a little durnign lunch time and what not then i convinced her to go for a drink after work...i feel for her instantly and she did me......for some reason she couldnt leave her bf she lived at home her mother wanted her to marry the guy blah blah blah...this want on for about 4 months but i couldnt turn away....i just sat there and dealt with the fact she had a bf...she keept telling me that she was gonna end it with him and be mine.......i was seeing other girls myself....and by the time she finaly did end it i was alittle confused..why did it take so long? i got hurt a lot waiting.....so i didnt jump on it when i had the chance.

we went on and off a little...then i got a girl and tried to stay away from her worked for a year.....i wanted a real realationship.....but something just kept pulling us back together........i couldnt make it work with anybody else cuz she had my heart so how could it......i decided to end it with the new girl after a year...i just wasnt happy with her i kept seeing the girl from work everyday she haunted my thoughts i knew she was the only girl that truely ever made me happy....so i had to to know...i had to give it a real shot...no more sneaking around....no more being the girl on the side.......no more hiding....so i reached out to her...she responded....told me she still had feelings but she was seeing someone...once again i backed off...but about a week later we found eachoter talking again..we hung out for a few days in a row...they were great....i slept at her house and all...she made it kinda sound like she wasnt seeing this guy anymore.....best few days of my life....then she calls me and tells me she feels horrible she was still seeing the guy she was dating....she dosent know what to do....we are right back were we started 4 years ago......now shes going away this week end with this other guy....she tells me that inside she still wants me....but i came back in her life so fast she dosent know what to do......so here we are!!!!!!! crazy right

like i said ive been with a lot of girls...i never loved on b4 her....and i know she loves me....when we are together we are like the couple that everybody looks at and think man if only i can be that happy with someone...im just so confused...i wish she would just make it eays and tell me she dosent want me so i could walk away with no regrats..

so theres the story sarah.......what do you think....sorry to the rest of you if you were bored by it.

[vicki595]

Jay~  Well,I read your story and it reads like a Greek tragedy of unrequited love !
Sara will definitely have some thoughts on this when she gets on here...

To me,this is the age old situation of missed messages,confusion,and "failure to launch".  You two need to have a serious conversation and lay it ALL out !  You need to
get your message across loud and clear because she's scared !  Sometimes we just have to put our heart on the line and pray it doesn't get stomped. It's a risk that you take once,maybe twice in your lifetime.

Right now this is a tortuous situation for YOU.  You can't live like that...it's limbo !!  I'm
sure you're hurting because she's off with the other guy this weekend. Call her up today and give her something to think about...Does she know you love her?  If not,tell her!!!

What do you think?

V.

[jayeye]

I have recently told her how i feel.....which was very hard for me cuz as i mentioned earlier......i was always very afraid to feel......like you said i also think its cuz shes scared and confused....yeah she loves me and feels for me but why go for me...why screw up what you already have after all the stuff we already put eachother thru.

since i stayed at her house on sunday ive been trying to hang out with her....last night i talked to her for awhile.....she was saying how she knows that we cant get over eachother but she dosent know where to go from here.......i aksed if i can see her last night and she was like that just woulndt be right.....and i have to respect that dont i?  but is it right to me that shes gonna be away with him and i'm gonna be sitting here stressing about it..........oh really wish i knew what was going on in her head...i wonder if shes gonna be thinking of me this weekend....im off of work next week when she returns part of me wants to just let her breath a little and back off.....but then another part of me is like know show her how you feel show her its not just all talk......part of me wants to send her flowers to her job next week when she gets back..but part of me feels like a sucker if i do that