Dating Oxycontin IV User

[Escrazy]

OK guys I need some advice.  I am dating someone that IV's oxycontin.  It scares me quite a bit.  I am the only person he has told and feel a certain sick pride in that.  Sometimes I think I should cut it loose but, I guess the question is, do you think I am helping him by being there and being someone he can be honest with, or is it just doomed to failure and am I wasting time on someone that will end up hurting me in some way or another?

By the way, he buys them illegally, so no prescription.  Takes 1 or 2 a day-highest dose possible.

[subpop200]

Well if you yourself don't think you are strong enough to help him then you shouldn't.  I know if it were me i would but that's because I'm a very assertive/aggressive person so I'm very stern with people I care about for their own sake.  You should try this approach and see if it works first if not, then maybe you should move on.  But don't give up yet...be a friend at least.  You don't have to date him....in fact I don't think you should but being a friend, I see no reason why not.  You can help him in that way.  You really have to learn to be stern and assertive with him though if you want him to change.  Don't take his excuses...make him feel guilty, mess with his mind a little so he truly feels like a douche for doing what he is doing.  Tough love like I said buddy.  No one is truly numbed out on drugs enough not to care...trust me I know.  There is always love in a person even when it seems like there isn't.  

[SensibleInSarnia]

Run like hell.

[Escrazy]

I asked him last night to come clean with me about some stuff and he did.  Seems like if I ask him a direct question he tells me the truth.  He has never asked to move in with me, as a matter of fact basically told me he wouldn't unless he knew he was in love with me.  It's weird to me that someone has that much forethought, and is totally drugged out?  Uggghhh life is nothing if not confusing..............

[Escrazy]

Wow totally different perspective there.  I don't dissagree. I do feel like leaving him and not being there for him is not right but I struggle wondering if by being there I am really helping him?  Seems like so many people say that they could give a **** less about the people that care about them when they are using.  There are things that bother me, like him being secretive, and dissapearing and **** but overall he always seems like he cares about me and what's going on in my life.

[subpop200]

I unlike other people don't think you need to get out of his life.  If you do, I fear that the only person that is there for him will be gone and he will just be depressed and do something stupid.  You should still be his friend.  I think it's selfish to just look out for your own safety...you are sober and you are stronger than that and people like him need someone strong.  According to my morals and values, I don't understand how someone could just say leave him for your own safety.  If I were to leave my girl for my own safety because she was doing something bad...I would feel like a bad person.  Be there for him please.  If not for him for your own self of morals.  I'm not preaching God here or anything, I'm just preaching being a good human being.  You should simply change one thing...BE STERN WITH HIM.  Being nice about telling someone to stop won't work.  In fact, in a certain part of Russia there is a rehab program that has a 99% success rate...they simply get the person that is addicted, lock them up make them go cold turkey and beat them every day so when they get off and are totally sober...the idea of being beaten up conditions them not to do opiates and boy does it work.  You need to have some tough love.  Threaten to call the police or something...anything that will scare him into wanting to change.  Tell him he's a ***** or something for making excuses becuase he is a man that should be there playing the role of protecting and being strong for his woman...not the other way around.  He is a coward...but you need to make him feel bad about it and be there for him.  As a good person, I'm telling you this.  I wouldn't feel like quitting myself if it wasn't for the people I love and if they were gone...I would be a thousand times more inclined to use drugs.  That's a fact.  

[Escrazy]

OK guys,
I saw him on my birthday...  we had a great day and then he fell asleep on the couch and I was in my room on the phone so I wouldn't disturb him, and low and behold I walk into the living room and he was gone!!!  Vanished! Poof! Straight Dissapeared!

When I texted him he said he had an emergency of the most serious kind..  Something that if he is lying about would make him the most dispicable kind of person. His phone is due to be turned off in the next day or two, so lord knows if I will ever see him again?

Weird huh?  Made a point to see me, be awesome and then bam.  Any of you care to venture a guess.  By the way he had **** with him so he wasn't cringin' or anything....  I'll tell ya the only thing that fits is that there really was an emergency and he lost it, or he lost it a long time ago and is a straight nutburger!!!!!!