Dating Oxycontin IV User

[Escrazy]

OK guys I need some advice.  I am dating someone that IV's oxycontin.  It scares me quite a bit.  I am the only person he has told and feel a certain sick pride in that.  Sometimes I think I should cut it loose but, I guess the question is, do you think I am helping him by being there and being someone he can be honest with, or is it just doomed to failure and am I wasting time on someone that will end up hurting me in some way or another?

By the way, he buys them illegally, so no prescription.  Takes 1 or 2 a day-highest dose possible.

[Escrazy]

It goes against my better judgement to have someone in my life with these issues, even as a friend.  I feel like the longer I stay involved on any level the more I will care, and the more I care the more potential damage.  I still feel like he is a worthwhile person, and don't think just writing someone off because of their issues is my first choice but jeez it seems like such a fragile balancing act to keep him, my sanity and my kid's safety all in balance.  Do I really want to work that hard for someone that may or may not want to work that hard too?

[jt808]

honestly i cant answer that thts up to u to find the answer out for urself, either way i thnk the route u took was a very good way to do it and not threating just nice way to show u care and are there and willing to talk and so on, so i really liked way u handled that situation. so what do u feel like u should do cuz only u can tell ya kno.

[Escrazy]

OK personal question-around 4 months.  I agree by the way that no one is above resorting to getting their needs met however they can (Heroin).  Just relating what he has told me.  

I spoke to him last night by the way.  Asked him if he liked his life.  He said no?  Asked him if he wanted to change it and he said yes.  I didn't ask him to stop or anything, I just wondered how he felt about what he does, and the lifestyle that goes along with it.

I feel like just talking to him and asking about his feelings is probably a better route than making any demands on him?  I know that I cannot involve myself with his lifestyle, but god help me I still want to be there for him too.  Does that seem naive to believe that having a friendship that is honest can help him, or is that just my needs getting in the way of cutting him lose and being smart?

[jt808]

and one last thng if u dont mind me asking a kinda personal Qs im curious as to how long u two have been dating if u wouldnt mind.

[jt808]

well thts good, but trust like i said i dont kjno this man but ive heard and seen many people say they wounjdt do heroin and this and that and well lets just say many many people who say tht they would never touch the stuff when it come down to it when ur hurting really bad and thts all there is sometimes all it takes is one moment of weakness for his and ur sake im hoping it never happans but just reconize tht many times it can and does. even to very strong successful good people just get caught up in it. happy b-day

[Escrazy]

Thanks for the Birthday wishes, I believe I will spend it reading Co Dependent no more, and women who love too much and the Alanon book and maybe some chicken soup for the soul and any other self help tome I can get my hands on.  There should be a book called women who love men who love oxies, lol.......

Well at least I have my sanity and sense of humor to get me through being along on my 37th b day....  uuuuugggggghhhhh almost forty and still making classic blunders!  I hope you all have a fabulous weekend!!!!