Daughter addicted to crack and alcohol

[maryfran07]

My daughter was hit by a car walking across major highway and was very intoxicated. Suffered 5 skull fractures, 3 blood clots, also blood clot in broken leg which was put back together with plates etc. plate in jaw, whole face was reconsructed, left shoulder, right foot broken, trauma to chest, and other injuries. Suffered long and short term memory loss, vision left eye, no taste or smell. She had to relearn everything, was in hospital and rehab for leg at least 9 months. She was living with me for about a year then she started to see former boyfriend. She has been in the hospital 8 times, 4 in different states as she was going to concerts and overdose. She came back home and went to hospital 2 times. Two wks. ago she was admitted to intensive care unit from crack and alcohal overdose. I was sick at the time and not able to see her. 3 days later she signed herself out against Dr. orders and someone told me she was looking for crack last night. She isn't staying with me as I called the police on her for coming here wasted and tried to knock me down the steps. The police let her ex husband take her to his house. I am so afraid that she will die soon, she is only 100 lbs. and Dr. very concerned about her heart. She has had problems since she was 14 and I think she may have been clean for a few years. The family has been thru hell over the years. Any advice, any feedback would be deeply appreciated. Thank you, Maryfran

[Danielle1216]

Wow that situation sounds identical to people i know,what i can tell you is what her mother told me she had to do,the girl was selling her pain pills and taking the money to buy street drugs as well,bad situation,but i will tell you she said she prays for her daughter everyday ,and told her she loved her ,but she had to wash he hands clean of it,her health was going bad because of it ,she didnt hve a choice,you can only do so much to help someone you love with a problem because in the end ,if they dont want to help themselves,not even a professional can help them,they have to want it,i wish you the best of luck....danielle

[10356]

Hello Maryfran and Welcome to the forum. I'm very sorry to read of all your Daughter has been through..  It is a miracle she survived a accident of that nature. I wish there was a the key that would unlock your daughters chains but she is the only one that can do this.. she has to want to get clean.. Have you looked into Alanon ? it is a support group for family members of addicts.. You have been through hell and back.. it would be good for you and your family to lean on them. I hope through this you are taking care of yourself as you tend to get lost in her addictions. I will say a Prayer that she has a moment of clarity soon as she did a few weeks ago.. wish I had more to offer. we have other family members so check back ok they have been there also. lesa