Do addicts have feelings?

[Utility]

This may sound like a stupid question but do addicts have feelings of love and do they hurt after a breakup? My now ex was a 3-month heroin addict and after a brief rehab stint, she got cleaned but I discovered that while she dropped the needle and her heroin habit, she is back on another opiate (pills that she gets from a dealer that works at a drugstore). She uses the prescribed suboxone to temporarily stave off the withdrawals. I didn't end the relationship because of her drug use specifically but because she was adamant that she stopped while I have valid proofs that she still get pills from this guy.
As I am madly in love with her, I still secretely hope that someday, she'll clean up her acts, admit to everything and come back in my arms. I have reluctantly turned the page but her once a day texts to reminding me how much she loves me and misses me are making the situation alot tougher to discard and forget. (but I am hanging tough as I don't want to enable her). I have learned that the drug addict only has one love and it's the drug he/she is on. Does that mean her love you/miss you comments are another lie? While the drug may be one of her primary priorities, I know for a fact she is hoplessly in love with her baby daughter. Could anyone provide some insight on an addict's feelings for others. I do understand that I may never be back with this girl unless she magically changes but I am interested in knowing if there is any hope in the future.

[IBKleen]

You keep going forward and take care of YOU.

Keep posting anytime you need to.

[abritt121222]

Yes we def do have feeling but like the others said we are just numbed and some things dont hurt us as much as they normaly would but for me i can also say some things that normally wouldnt really bother me make me feel terrible i know for me i was always so depressed and hated myself so much knowing what i was doing to my family and girlfriend it hurt me so much to see them worrying about me and not being able to help me and them crying about my problem and yet i would still use because at the end of the day i would tell myself that i do need the medicine for whatever reason and i was doing it for a good reason when i really wasnt but every day i would cry sometime because i hated what i was putting my family and girlfriend thru every day but just could not stop without help and not a little over two months clean i am so much happier and feel so much better because my feelings are back to normal again and everyone is so proud of me for beating my addiction
sorry that was so long for just a yes or no question to i just go into it and felt i needed to say all that to explain why i say yes :)

ABritt

[Utility]

You are right, I should have said, I am trying to move on. It's only been a few weeks and it's still driving me nuts. I'm still checking my phone every 5 minutes to see if she texted, I am still looking forward to her "sweet" comments, I still have trouble sleeping wondering what she is up to, I am consistently wondering where she gets all that money to get high (this is the toughest), I am still hoping she is still in love with me. The only thing I have done is break up the relationship and I am just miserable but I won't flinch. I have no way of changing my number as I have a work phone (she knows where I work so she can find me if she chooses to and get my new number even if my company agreed to it). We still have some common matters to finish and while they aren't important and don't have an immediate timeline, she makes it seem like the most critical and time sensitive things to do just so she can see me. As hard as it hurts for me to even type this, I do wanna cut her off for good but she knows exactly what to do to keep me "close" and she is succeeding. You are right, I am driving myself crazy. I know love can't be controlled but I am consistently asking myself why I let it get this far.

[IBKleen]

Hun, You haven't moved on. You are still excepting her text messages and still questioning her feelings. None of us can tell you how she will feel. We can only tell you what she needs to do to get and stay clean.

I know you are hurting and it is very sad. If you really want to move on and get on with your life (you are young), then get a new cell phone number, etc. Let her know you are not there for her every need.

You spoke earlier about how you don't want to enable her but you still are by being there and you are hurting yourself in the meantime. You are questioning her every move and thing that she says and trying to interpret it. You are going to drive yourself crazy.

I hope that you get the help you need to really move on. You seem like such a nice person. Best of luck.

[avisg]

I have know idea what here feelings may be when she gets off the drugs we thats hard to answer and to be honest an addict is better off waiting a year after they have stoped using to get into a relationship.They need to be focusing all there engery into there recovery .So thats a long time for you to wait but that really what she would need .

[vicki595]

Hey~  I'm sure she loves you. She loves her child, also.  But,she's put her life and both of you at risk because of her love of drugs.  It's part of the disease. Addicts can rationalize anything!!  It's a sad situation...she needs to get help and get clean. Nothing
will work in her life until she does that...  She has feelings but her strongest feelings are for that "high"...it's how it is...
Be strong~
V.