Blood tests are by far more reliable
If u can talk her into obtaining an order from her dr to go to a hosptial or a lab to have a drug panel drawn..then this is the way to go for sure
If she is willing to do this plus pay the costs for it and explain to her dr why she needs the order for these labs...then she really loves u lots!
I am not planning on telling her when I am to randomly stop by with a drug test and I there will be no other urine in the bathroom but hers. If it comes back positive, then how do I know what drug she tested positive for? I know she rarely smokes week as well.
Or I could stop worrying about it altogether and continue ignoring her for good.
I have to I completely agree with Ga GUY on this one .she should NOT be involved with anyone the first year and do you want to live in a relationship were you have to drug test your girl friend .
Hi, I have been following your story. My husband and myself were heroin addicts for 13yrs. I am over 300 days clean. My husband had over 200 days clean behind him and relapsed but he is back on the straight and narrow.Heroin is an extremely hard drug to get off and stay off.Id go as far as saying its one of the hardest drugs to come off. Before we came on this site, we had stopped and relapsed countless times. You seem to have put a lot of work and money into this relationship. If she is willing to do a drug test and she doesnt know when you are going to turn up with it then you could try that, but i agree with the above maybe a blood or hair one would be better. The pharmacist will explain all this to you. I dont know how strong your feelings for her are, but to put up with it all, you must have very strong feelings for her. It is up to you my friend but as i say this addiction could go off and on for years, although one thing in her favour is that she wasnt on it for a long time so maybe she is telling the truth. She cant be taking any kind of opiate as she would have went into instant w/d when she dissolved the sub under her tongue. So she isnt addicted to any kind of opiate or she wouldnt be able to go without them for that long Its basically down to you now. Everything could be fine or you could end up with years of coping with her addiction. She maybe has stopped but just doing other strange things you dont know about. I would tell her i wasnt going to make her do a drug test so she doesnt think your going to do it and then she maybe will take whatever she maybe taking without worrying about the test. But you have to remember you have to look after yourself too and think about the life ahead of you. As i said before 3 months is not a long time to be taking heroin so she maybe has been able to stop it and stay off it. Does she go to any kind of aftercare. I do realise she lives quite far away from everywere so that would be quite hard. Were is she staying now. Has her mum and dad let her back in ? I wish you the very best of luck and if you have any questions do not hesitate to ask. ..Kim
First, congrats on your recovery as it is a wonderful accomplishment. She is back at her parents' but I have no idea how they are treating her. I have very strong feelings for the girl and have been miserable through this but I am adamant that no matter what, I will not be with her if she uses drugs and she knows that. As for the test, I could buy it and go to her house and make sure she does it in front of me anytime I want. She offered to do it but I haven't replied to her texts and she would have no idea that I am planning on doing it.
Being as addicts are the some of the best liars I wouldn't be surprised if she already has a stash of urine and changing it out daily. I'm sure she has already considered that you may just be dropping by without notice. I would make sure you are in the bathroom with her. Don't let her claim stage fright. I also wouldn't just do one test. Like avisg said, she may have taken something to clear her system although I don't know how reliable those products are. So I would give her one every other day or every third day for a week or two.
But like mentioned above, if you go for a blood or hair test, the results can not be tampered with. One blood test would be all that you need and it would probably be cheaper than to give her an at home test every third day for a week.
You have been bending over backwards for her. You have a great heart. I hope everything works out for you and for her.