thank you for your POV -
this morning i talked to him and i asked him if the counselors and group talk to him about how his addiction has hurt the ones who love him and he said YES they talk about it all the time.....and that even though he knew things were hurting everyone he just didn't get it....
his parents have bailed him out to the tune of over $125,000.00 since he was 21 - he is only 25 now - he will be 26 in december. right now they have $30,000.00 on a 2nd mortgage on their home -
i guess it is easier said then done to cut the addict off financially.....i just hope that in rehab they teach him someway to stop the lying.........but i don't know.........
i miss him so much but each day i ask myself if i will ever really be able to trust him....i told him this morning that i didn't want to spend the rest of my life worrring that every time something came up in his life that might be stressful he would run out and use -
we can only take it one day at a time ---
5 more days and i get to see him!!!
Hey,
An addict will do almost ANYTHING to get his DOC. I know for me, deep down inside I despised myself, everytime I told a lie, took money from my kids/husband, etc. But I had to push those negative feelings aside and concentrate on getting more pills. That was THEE most important thing for me. Everything else came afterward. I swore to myself that I was doing it so I could function and be a better wife, mother, worker. But the bottom line was I was addicted and couldn't do anything else before I got my pills.
Toward the end, the pills didn't even give me the high I wanted and EVERYTHING in my life was a drag...not to mention the thousands of $ I spent.
I can't believe I was really that selfish self-centered person, but the pills and my addiction to them took full control.
This is true for addicts. In my opinion, your bf has done the things you mention to support his drug addiction.....He may seem like a non-caring "schmuck" but his addiction may have caused it.
Hang in there.