Help, husband quit smoking pot very crabby!

[lifeisbetter]

OK guys, I need some advice please! My husband has been a daily pot smoker since he was 13. We've been married 8 years and he's tried to quit 3 times. Never for long but always a complete jerk to my kids and myself  but, I used to have my pills to escape his extreme irritability. Well he quit again 2 weeks ago. It sucks!!! He's been an ass to me this whole time but he wants me to be with him to make him feel better,if you know what I mean. He says he'll make it up to me. It is sooo hard for me to give him a break. He lives for our kids and is the responsible one in our relationship. The problem is he lets me know it ALL THE TIME. I have never smoked pot so does anyone have any comments on how long this will last. What should I expect as far as withdrawel? He's seen me detox at home sooo many times but I was never mean to him. I should be grateful that we will both finally be clean for our kids. I think I'm afraid I'll relapse because he makes me feel so badly about myself when he's like this. I can do nothing right you know? How can I help him get through this without losing my own sanity in the meantime?

[OxyDout]

I have been trying to post all day, but my computer is not working well, I did want to clear a couple of things up, BUT FIRST THINGS FIRST....

I don't know who asked the question, but I don't know too much about pot, I did smoke a good amount in college, and I had friends who smoked 4 to 5 times a day, which to me is a good amount, in anycase, when push came to shove, they stopped, cold turkey, with no complaints and or withdrawal, as a matter of fact, they still smoke on the weekends ONLY, so it was not addictive for them, and so much so that they can still smoke on weekends and not even think of it during the week.  I think the issue could be, your husband doesn't want to stop!! like we have always said, you have to WANT TO STOP, you can't make it happen, neither can anyone else.  So good luck to you and I really hope it all works out.

Now, Groovy, I wasn't personally attacking you, I just so what had occurred and wanted to speak up in agreement because I to think its ok to break threads, however, WITH DISCRETION.

I feel no abandonment what so ever, nor was it my main goal to find out all about your life, I just thought it was nice to have someone from this forum in the same geographical location is all, which is why I had told you before that we seemed to be butting heads and that it would be best to speak over the forum.  And Yes, you have helped me, during our trials and tribulations,hahaa, I say that because you helped me through our conflict, you helped me see the right perspective on things, so thank you.

So, I don't know too much about pot, except for what I have posted,  I wish I could help more, but maybe you should confront him and ask him, do you want to do this?? or do you want to continue smoking pot? get him to really come out with it, and weigh the pros and cons of the situation, that might make things easier or harder, but either way, youll get the true answer.

Good luck

[Tessa]

Can someone PLEASE tell me where this "other forum", that mrmichael67 spoke of, is??  There is WAY too much drama in this one! People come here for help, not for all of this soap opera BS!!!
Thanks

[groovygirl]

altho i am a part of this mess, my original hope was to try to strengthen this board...BUT, some people chose to get personal (and nasty), so i retaliated.  i should have just ignored it and been the adult....live and learn.  i don't threaten to leave...i just go away when i need to and come back when i need to.

thanks for being the mature one!  have a good day.

[skipper]

hey people:
for what ever it's worth, i've been around this forum for awhile.
matter of fact witchy woman and i go back uite a few months. i
find myself in agreement with witchy woman about all this. lets
just write it off as all of us being different in style. i re-
member a while back...getting into a dis agreement with witchy
woman. instead of the usual fur flying, blood letting, we agreed
to disagree. golly, we acted like adults! to this day witchy
woman comands my respect and more importantly, i consider her a
a very good friend who has always been there for me in my many
hours of need! and we still can't always agree!

i'm real tired of trying to keep up with who is going...who is
staying...who said what. last fall there was a major falling out,
a whole bunch of people got mad, left and started another forum.
where there was only one, now there are two. that's the way i
choose to see it.

hey people when ya' get right down to it what do we have here,
except each other? our strengths are our differences. i don't
want to be thought of as a doctor, troublemaker, or anything else
other than what i am....a drug addict who is nothing alone. but
if i have this forum...i have a chance to be everything i was
intended to be. point is I CAN'T DO IT ALONE!

keep an angel on your shoulder
kip

[groovygirl]

wow, you're still here. i guess saying you were going to leave accomplished what you wanted - people chose your side, and you got the attention you wanted. i hate this kind of stuff, and it was exactly what i was trying to help this forum avoid. i am learning not to let people walk all over me, and i needed to respond to your hostile post, but since you are leaving (sure), i guess it will become peaceful again?

[mrmichael67]

GWH, my e-mail is ***@****.  I didn't say I wouldn't lurk occasionally and I had to see what happened.  Goodbye people.  I am not gunning for people to ask me to stay.  I have had enough.  Besides, do you really want my 'angry' posts anyway?  Whatever!  If you want to find me, I will be at the other forum where there is an extreme lack of people jumping on other people's cases and genuine compassion.  And, you can ask all the questions you want.