Help, husband quit smoking pot very crabby!

[lifeisbetter]

OK guys, I need some advice please! My husband has been a daily pot smoker since he was 13. We've been married 8 years and he's tried to quit 3 times. Never for long but always a complete jerk to my kids and myself  but, I used to have my pills to escape his extreme irritability. Well he quit again 2 weeks ago. It sucks!!! He's been an ass to me this whole time but he wants me to be with him to make him feel better,if you know what I mean. He says he'll make it up to me. It is sooo hard for me to give him a break. He lives for our kids and is the responsible one in our relationship. The problem is he lets me know it ALL THE TIME. I have never smoked pot so does anyone have any comments on how long this will last. What should I expect as far as withdrawel? He's seen me detox at home sooo many times but I was never mean to him. I should be grateful that we will both finally be clean for our kids. I think I'm afraid I'll relapse because he makes me feel so badly about myself when he's like this. I can do nothing right you know? How can I help him get through this without losing my own sanity in the meantime?

[groovygirl]

you're doing this because you KNOW life can be better - just like your name remember?  what's going on?  are you having a tough day?

[lifeisbetter]

Mr. or Ms. Trumpet, I love you. Thanks for the reply. I knew somebody would eventually. Mamafeathers you too. Please bear with us addicts we tend to get our feathers ruffled at times. Get it Mamafeathers/ruffled. If at all possible stop the Vicodan now...if you only knew what you'd be avoiding.
Tex3 Hi sweety you ok?

everyone: seriously if you get a minute I NEED A PEP TALK!!! I can only take so much. Remind me why I'm doing this?

[groovygirl]

i was trying to do something for the good of the board.  you guys however, are writing only to give me a hard time.  i didn't set out to personally bash anyone, but i guess this has become a free-for-all.

i'm glad you feel that i have helped you.  i know you are probably mad at me because i have backed offj from corresponding with you so much - maybe i haven't been as responsive to you as you would have liked.  getting personal with people online can be tricky (and dangerous).  it sounds like i have offended you by doing that, so i'm sorry.  it's the reason why i never wanted to answer all of your questions or be too specific about personal things.  i'm sorry you feel abandoned or whatever.  what i have just said seems like the only logical explanation for your last post.  no one asked you if you agreed with michael, and no one wanted to turn this into a who's right and who's wrong battle.  maybe we should get back to the first post and try to help the woman whose husband is trying to quit pot huh?

i don't have much experience with quitting pot, so i left it to others more knowledgeable.

[trumpet69s]

No one posted an answer about the lady and her husband trying to get off pot.  I smoked pot from the time I was 12 to the age of 25.  I just quit and I did not have any withdrawl symptoms and I know many others who have done the same. Pot is not addictive like nicotine or opium.  It does not have any physical addictive chemicals just mental.  Tell your husband to grow up and stop being such a crab.

[OxyDout]

I swear to god if you leave, I'll, I'll..... huh, the internet what a wonderful thing.  

Guys, it it inevitable people will do things and or say things that you disagree with and just don't like, however, thats when you ignore it and move on.  

Mr.Michael, I have appreciated all posts you have contributed to this forum, you have been a pillar to the structure in which this place has been formed.  I to have wanted to not post here anymore and get very tired of it at times, but Ive learned to keep the door open just in case, but do me a favor and post atleast one more time, I would love to have your email address. I hope all is well.  

Groovy, I agree with MrMichael, HOWEVER, you have been a large part of my recovery, you showed me that I DON'T know everything and that I need to keep an open mind to different opinions, so I wouldn't want to see you get irritated at little things, you know?  I mean, I to knew when I saw your name you were going to say something about someone breaking a thread, its not worth it. I know your gonna get mad when you read this, but for what its worth, thank you for your help.

GWH

[groovygirl]

why do people choose sides when something like this comes up?  it isn't high school or a popularity contest.

7477 - as far as your idiotic comments go, don't think you can come here for the first time and tell me to leave the forum.  it really isn't up to you.  if your dr. didn't tell you how to use your medication, then maybe you should switch drs.  also, i don't get high...i'm in recovery, so if your comment was directed to me you couldn't be more off base.