I am dealing with a similar situation I found a dope pipe in my boyfriends pocket while he was sleeping this morning of course he denied it to the fullest saying it was his friends and his friend had left it in his car I've had suspiciouns of him doing it for awhile but he always get really angry and denys it I've been with him for 4 years and we just had a child together only 5 weeks ago I don't know what to do I'm at a total loss and I told him I would drug test him and he agreed so if any one has any advice for me please I need help!
I found out about my boyfriends addiction to heroin 3 days before the delivery of my baby. I noticed a mark on his arm and Inquired about it, he confessed because we never lie to eachother. I'm going through it!!!! not only am I sort of forced to help or be with him I have a newborn for him and I cry a lot because its mentally draining. He's curently seeking detox he wants help I kno he does because he cries real tears telling me he wants better just talk to him and suggest detox. I kno what u are going through good luck if u want I can give u my email address because I have almost became an expert at this stuff I kno how the marks look I know withdrawal symptoms I kno a lot.
I found out about my boyfriends addiction to heroin 3 days before the delivery of my baby. I noticed a mark on his arm and Inquired about it, he confessed because we never lie to eachother. I'm going through it!!!! not only am I sort of forced to help or be with him I have a newborn for him and I cry a lot because its mentally draining. He's curently seeking detox he wants help I kno he does because he cries real tears telling me he wants better just talk to him and suggest detox. I kno what u are going through good luck if u want I can give u my email address because I have almost became an expert at this stuff I kno how the marks look I know withdrawal symptoms I kno a lot.
Hey i was wondering how your boyfriend turned out? Is he still doing heroin? Are you still with him? I am in the same situation you were in. I am pretty sure my boyfriend is doing heroin, I have been with him for 3 years now and its just the past 3 months i have felt he has been doing heroin. He has been lying to me about where hes going, hes not himself anymore. He doesnt take care of himself, i have to force him to shave and cut his hair. Hes stays up late but nods off the whole time, and gets mad that hes nodding off so it doesnt make sence. I have talked to his mother about it and she has been thinking the same thing because he is not acting himself. He always goes in the bathroom for awhile and twice i found small pieces of tin foil floating in the toilet. When his mom confronted him about the foil he said it was from hersey kisses but this was thick foil so that was a lie. Than i found white powder on a desk and his ID covered in white powder and he tried to tell me maybe one of his friends was doing coke on the desk and its probally candy on the ID because that makes alot of sense. I dont want to leave him because i love him and dont want him doing heroin but he gets mad at me and fights with me anything i bring it up. I am really worried about him and im always stressed and upset watching how he nodds off and lets him self go now. I dont know anything about heroin or what i should do, im worried things are going to get worse or even overdose. I know he has to want help in order to get help but hes so stubborn and just keeps lying to me. I was thinking of drug testing him, he said he will take a drug test i just dont know how hes going to act when i actually give it to him and i think hes just going to say he took a vicodin because on a drug test it just shows opiates so it could be either or.
hey jenny.
ive been in the same shoes as yourself, maybe alittle diff.
me and my EX got together in 2006 it was perfect everything was great, the only thing was i ate pills and he smoked pot, about 4 months into the relationship we both talked about being clean an did so.
i quit and he quit.
we moved in together in the 5th month of our relationship, everything was fine for about 2 weeks then i started noticing little things like how he would let me in the bathroom most of the time (if i needed to get in for something lol)but then there were times he would tell me to go the h*** away i thought i was his pooo stinked or something lol idk.
well one day i went to go into the bedroom and he had locked the door, i knocked and asked him to open up he said hang on, he opened the door and he had white stuff in his nose.
ive done coke i know what im looking for and i know the high blah blah. thats the diff. your kinda in the dark of what to exp. and what to look for. (back to the story)
i looked at him and i was like hang on babe you got something on your nose an he fliped the h*** out, its a booger or something on those lines. i was like oh i think i laughed it off.
well the next day he went to work and i started looking around and i found baggies, straw, blades. when he got home i had everything on the table and i was like what the F*** is this. IDK where that came from. LIE LIE LIE.
My point is i went through this for about 16 months, i would hide money for rent it would vanish, 2 bank accounts $400.00+ in the negative, stealing from my family and his, i was working 2 jobs when i couldnt get him to work 1.
i walked out when i caught him smoking crack!!!!!
Listen i understand you love him, i loved mine too but there is a time when you have got to draw a line step outside the box and just watch him self destruct.i know it sounds bad really really bad, smacks are the worst(i think)addicts because the drug is sooooo dependant on fixes. dont be as stupid as i was an let him get you all himed up in some s*** that will make your head spin.
FYI- i still talk to him an still love him just as much, and he is clean now has a great job, his own house, a nice truck. Guess what he hit rock bottom before he cleaned up. he was sleeping in a truck for daysssss at a time, stealing, smokin, snortin, pawning, liein, doing anything to get high. it only took him 1 month after i left him to hit his low.
AND we were together for alittle over 2 years, Friends to this day.
Good Luck Jenny
Be Smart About It!!
Date me?
joking it sounds like your a great girl and i appreciate that.
but if all else fails try this.
Try agreeing with him, and becoming his friend with his drug problems no matter what. It may take a lot of dicipline and sound unorthidox but its worked with me.
Be his friend instead of disagreeing with his use. Use this to try to get info in a way. After that wait for him to come to you. It will help him in the long run and will only take a couple of days before he relizes hes setting a bad example for you.
Now im not experienced with this but it may help you. Try it if you feel up to it, sorry your dealing with this, but if you need support from a guys point of view i can help you.