I NEED ADVICE~IMPATIENT REHAB

[Madisonjsmom]

My family is taking me tomorrow.  I am scared.  I dont want to be away from my daughter!  Give me honest advie please.

[Madisonjsmom]

will everyone stay close to me today and tonight...I am scared but know i have to do it.

[Madisonjsmom]

Thank you so much, everyone.  My daughter is 7 and I am a stay at home mom.  She is so  so close to me..but I do have family that will keep her busy.  It is a dual diagnoses center that will work on my depression and my addiction....then i think to myself...I only take 35mg a day, I should be able to do this on my own..but maybe not.  It is St.Simons Island in Georgia...It is called Focus By The Sea, if anyone wants to google it and tell me what you think.  It is three hours away.  But, My family says that i need a break from my daily routine and this will be good to get away and concentrate on just me.  Wow that sounds scary..concentrating on just me...I havent done that for a long time.  The past few days I have had bad stomach achs, so i think i am going to tell my daughter that i need to go and have test done and see whats wrong with my tummy. It is for 14 days...Is that long enough for them to do everything?  What are these facilities like?

[avisg]

You really do need to go into rehab .It is the best thing for you and in the end it will be the best thing for your daughter.All you have to do is say you are going to be going on a trip for a while and you will be back you will have opportunities to talk to her after you settle in  that you love her and will miss her.If she is little little it sounds like you have a great supportive family that will help take care of your child .It also sounds like this is your last chance you have said that your hubby is at the end of his rope .Your addiction is not worth losing your whole family over .This will be ok !!!

[refusingbondage]

How old is your daughter?  If you are stuggling so bad, then girl my advice is to GO and really take ADVANTAGE of this opportunity.  Use it, use it, use it.  Go into it with your head and heart open and really work their program.  What kind of rehab is it?  For how long are you going?  What I would personally tell my son (who is 12) is the truth - mom's not well and addicted to medication that I cant stop taking and that I need to go away for a bit to get better.  I would keep it simple and honest.  If your daughter is younger, you can change the wording (sugarcoat it a little) but keep it simple and honest.  One more thing --  make SURE she understands COMPLETELY that your not going to die or anything like that. Kids can come to that assumption pretty quick - so make sure she is reassured that you are OK but need some medical help to be 100%.  My son, at 12 got all worried about me when I first found MH cause I was on the computer a lot at home (which he is not use to) and he could see it was a 'medical site' and would ask me and I would always say 'mind your business' until one day he came to me and asked me straight out 'mom are you going to die -why are you always on a medical help site.'  Boy I felt like such a jer*k and explained a lot to him - which he completely absorbed and understood well.  Dont be afraid girl.  Just embrace it and remember - kids are more resilient than we think they are most of the time.  

[kalie1979]

you are doing the best thing for your daughter by getting help. i do know how you feel, i have a 10 yr old girl, that i love dearly and if i had the money i would have already went to rehab. can you just tell your daughter that you are going out of town for a while. how old is she?

kalie

[liscamdave]

I agree with Cathy!!! Honey, this is the BEST thing for you. I would have moved heaven and earth to have been able to go to an inpatient facility. I think everyone should do that as it gives you the proper tools to not only get clean, but stay clean. You are doing the best thing you can for both you and your daughter. Things will work out, you will see. We are all behind you.

Lisa