My sister and her 2 kids (8 and 5) just moved in with us. On the 2nd day she was here my mother and I saw her take a big white pill and a small orange pill from 2 (serarate) prescription bottles. We asked her what they were and she told us Motrin, 600 mg, for headaches. We knew she was lying. And she would never tell us what the orange pill was, she kept changing the subject.
A few minutes later she fell asleep on the couch so I went in her purse and took 1 of each pill and took them to Walgreen's pharmacy. The pharmacist told me that the white one was methocarbamol and the orange one is Xanax.
We've known she's had a problem for almost 3 years now, but we didn't know what it was and when questioned she would never admit to anything. She's 35 years old so there wasn't a whole lot we could do. Until now ...
When we found out what the pills were we confronted her about them she freaked out on us ... screaming that we hate her and we're out to get her, etc. Then she finally calmed down and admitted to us that she's been on Xanax since May of 2006 (since she lost her husband to cancer).
She says she's trying to ween herself off of it but I don't think she can. After doing a little research on the web it seems like she would need to go to some sort of rehab for this. But there's no way in hell that she'll go for that. So what else can we do?
I mean, she's so out of it everyday, she sleeps constantly ... even while talking on the phone or sitting at the table having a conversation. She even fell asleep doing the dishes the other day. I hate to think how her kids were treated before she came here because she doesn't care for them at all. My mother and I feed them, bath them, everything. We couldn't even wake my sister up earlier tonight to dye Easter eggs with the kids. We tried to but she screamed at us, What the F**K, I was sound asleep!. She also has an 18 year old son who moved in with me in January because he wants nothing to do with her because of this.
I have her whole family here, caring for the kids, feeding them, cleaning up after them. I just don't know what to do. Before they came here my house was quiet and clean and friendly ... now it's loud and messy and she is always arguing with someone.
I understand she has a problem and I want to help her but if she won't help herself, what am I supposed to do? She's 35 years old.