Hi,
I'm beside myself. About 4 years ago, my son was abusing marijuana to such an extent that he ended up getting arrested, getting placed in a outpatient full day rehab/high school program. After some initial rebellion, he cleaned himself up. He wanted to get back to school so that he could ask out this girl he really liked. He did pretty well with it until recently. He graduated HS and went off to college, moved in with his girlfriend. College was extremely stressful for him. The school kicks students out if they get less than a C in any of the major courses. He dropped out of a major course in the fall, because he knew he was going to fail it. He and his girlfriend got married shortly after Christmas, and I found out yesterday, that shortly after they got back home, he started abusing marijuana again. His wife called me yesterday and told me about this. He didn't want us to know. Here's the problem... he's been nasty to her, got mad at her for telling her friend and would be furious if he found out she told me. What can I do to help her and him without him freaking out on her. She said he's really bad and won't go to NA because "it's religious and a lot of hooey". Any suggestions?