I don't think I've seen one reply to the question asked in the post by the OP that isn't an "I've heard" or "I've read" type guess.
First, I applaud the OP for not being quick to buy into the "RUN, NOW"responses. If you're informed enough to understand the challenges and consequences possible from continuing your relationship with a person in active meth use, you may be that individuals best help.
What you're doing wrong (I am speaking a with first hand knowledge) is asking this question here to strangers rather than DIRECTLY OF YOUR S.O. LOCKED IN YOUR BATHROOM!!
This is where the relationship between user and most everybody else goes TERRIBLY WRONG.
By you not being informed, rational, confident and or possibly even safe asking this person you care for (who you know iis using alone locked in your bathroom) directly, " HEY. SOANDSO, I AM NOT ANGRY...HOWEVER, IT IS NOT COMMON TO SEEA PERSON LEAVE A RESTROOM HOLDING A BOTTLE OF RUBBING ALCOHOL MORE THAN MAYBE ONCE IN THEIR LIFETIME. I NEED YOU TO HONESTLY TELL ME WHAT YOU ARE DOING IN THERE. HERE'S WHAT I BELIEVE YOU ARE DOING AND WHY. IF I'M CORRECT, TELL ME HOW I CAN HELP BECAUSE I CAN'T ALLOW THIS IN MY HOME. IF I'M NOT CORRECT, PLEASE TELL ME EXACTLY WHAT IT IS YOU ARE DOING. THIS IS MY HOME, I LOVE YOU, BUT I NEED TO KNOW OR YOU'LL HAVE TO LEAVE".
Any other way of confronting this (like checking this forum without telling the USuser in the bathroom) will only reinforce the shame and guilt and defensive behavior in the user that's causing the person to be so secretive in the fitfirst place!!In such case, I'm in agreement with the other responses but for different reason. You do not have the proper information and understanding to safely and effectively confront this abtatticactive user and your misinformation may serve to dangerously escalate a situation.
A final youthought on the BS "intervention" recommendations. In this day and age, in 2018, in a nation so dominated by the news of various epidemic addiction crisis's..... If you are using actively and not seeking help on your own, it is generally because you do not want to stop using badly enough. Intervention will most likely only delay further abuse until aan eventual relapse. My personal experience in the reality vs. the myth of the larger recovery community is a person either silently or openly continues to relapse until that person wants only for themselves AND NO ONE ELSE to no longer live in the life in the addiction they know themselves to be luvlivingin when it's just themselves looking themselves in the mirror alone art night.
Of coursethere are exceptions to my claim, like anything in life. But that's what's so "cunning baffleing and powerful" regarding addiction: Not the disease itself, but the fact that it remains singular among all deadly diseases to hold fast to one singular 115 year old treatment methodology that is dubiously at best clinically proven to be effective. A disease that affects so many people as has such massive repercussions for society sosoupshould DEMAND more rigorous aand thoughtful treatment studies that the huge amount of eggs still in the one blank blank step method of treatment still being used today.
Chances are he is smoking the meth in the bathroom and putifying the drug beforehand, I would imagine it makes him feel less like an addict, and justifies his actions since he feels he’s taking precaution....
Bottom line.... RUN BEFORE HE BRINGS YOU DOWN WITH HIM!
I don’t personally know from experience, but I’ve been told that if you pour rubbing alcohol on meth before you smoke it, the stuff that is bad for you (swear that is the term they used.... as though the rest is good for you lol) separates from it.
It will also eliminate any ‘cut’ that was done to the meth.
First off, if you have children kick the down.
Second, it only takes a few minutes to clean a bathroom. If it's your place why R u Letting him stay in their for hours? Obviously he's doing something, I mean c'mon now, 2 hours??? 8f you really love the person kick the freaking door down and say what's up .
None of these answers are any help...
they dont answer what he could be doing with the alcohol or how he may be using it in some fashion to get high. All it says is he's an addict and you should leave.
I know many addicts and they need help. Not to be abandoned. Most addicts already have a low sense of self worth. Shunning them will only create a more distraught addict. Leading to more drug use.
I know recovering addicts and I know struggling addicts.
I too want to know what's up with the 91% alcohol. I'd rather confront the people I love with knowledge. To help them. Sometimes it's not just a boyfriend, it's a brother or a mother or a child.
I know there is no answer in this comment either, but hopefully the next person to comment could actually share some knowledge and facts about what's actually happing in the situation.
My bf used to lock himself in the bathroom too! I know how I felt angry ,scared, frustrated. I had to let him go I tried sticking it out and I hated him and resented him which in turn did not help him in him trying to recover .He is now in a recovery house with almost 4 months clean and we date and have our ups and downs. I would like to suggest a support group for you there is Al anon and Nar anon. They are groups for families of people in addiction and it really is great to have a support group and learn about what is what in this terrible situation. .As a recovering addict myself I know from personal experience that when I was being enabled by my loved ones I did not want to change cause it did n't hurt that bad but when I ended up on the streets,on and off for two yrs I finally admitted powerlessness and got help from Na and Aa today I am clean and loving life. I wish you well and if you have any questions just ask me and I will try to answer
if you couldnt find track marks or there was no smell he could be shooting it in his eye....sounds gross but ive seen it before....im sorry to hear this you dont deserve nor nobody else, my advice to you is get out while you can.
If it were a bottle of hand lotion I wouldn't worry as much as this bottle of rubbing alcohol. You do have a problem here..........you really need to think about this.
I wish you the best.
luv,
nauty.............
good advise get out while the getting is good. He probably shooting speed and it gets real ugly real fast.
Hi and welcome to the forum!
Get outa there as fast as you can. you don't wanna understand, believe me. And you sure don't wanna get involved in the misery this is all gonna bring right in your living room. Think about yourself. When drugs are in the story, it isn't a love story anymore. Well it is, but the love is for the drug...
Best of luck to you.
xoxoxo. sophie.
i'm not really "up" on the process of making meth...but i thought that it had to be cooked and that there was a definite smell from the process. can that be done in a bathroom??????
It's used in the process of making Meth. Perhaps he's making meth in your bathroom with all of the "cleaning materials" and then taking his little lab apart when he's done.
this is your boyfriend? you're not married?
RUN LIKE A BAT OUT OF HELL ! ! ! ! !