My sister is pregnant and abusing pills and now I feel so guilty!

[GMommy2008]

My sister is 33 weeks pregnant and has been using, and abusing pain pills since before she was pregnant. She was taking 40mg oxycontin 3-4 times a day and 15mg roxicodone in between, not sure how many, maybe 4 a day, if not more. And during her whole pregnancy, her dr. has been weaning her down and now she is just on percocet. The problem though is she has been taking her entire 30 day script within 5-10 days and then going through withdrawl. And then buying street drugs to take until her next appointment. Her husband has no idea but he is very hard to talk to and she wont let anyone even has access to talk to him (she guards the phone, and takes the mail, ect.). I have been struggling with what to do since May and I have been crying over it every day. I have talked to her MANY times and BEGGED her to stop, but she wont. Now, today she had an appointment. Her baby is measuring 4 weeks too small, movement has slowed down (but still there), and she has high blood pressure and protein in her urine. Im not sure what all of this means, but I am TERRIFIED for my nephew and now If something is wrong with him, or even if he just has to go through withdrawl (which is HORRIBLE that an innocent baby would have to go through that!), I know it is all my fault. Well, not all. I know SHE did it but I DIDNT stop it, which is just as bad in my book. I really WANTED to help but every idea I had just didnt work out. But I could of tried harder. I dont know. I am just in tears worried for that baby. I have never been here before. Please help me!

[GMommy2008]

To everyone really, thank you all for your care and concern! I just found this website a few days ago and wow do you guys care! And I truly appreciate it! I apologize I cant get on here much to read your posts right away but I try to get back here asap! Thanks again!   As for my situation, I'm still at a standstill. I really do not know what to do or what the best thing is for me to do. She lies and steals and talks her way out of everything. I really feel like no matter what I do, no good will be done and then it will just make her hate me. And Im not worried about myself. I'm worried that she will get away with it, hate me and quit talking to me, and then be all alone with that baby and her addiction. At least from where I am at now, I can see how she is with him after he is here and if then I see she is still doing this and cannot handle it, I will 100% call child services. But now with the pregnancy at the end, I'm not sure that doing anything now would really SAVE the baby. I dont know. I am more or less rambling. I am very tired and very stressed and very confused. Whats worse is that my sister is ten years OLDER than me! She was always my role model and now I am seeing her do this to an innocent baby, and that KILLS me inside!   Thanks again for the replies. I will be back in the morning. Goodnight all.

[GA Guy]

HIPPA Laws keep health care professionals from disclosing health related information about you. It doesn't keep you from disclosing information about someone else to the doctor. The doctor would welcome this information. He won't be able to discuss her with you, but he'll listen to what you have to say. Just don't expect him to share information back and forth with you.

[jenny06xx]

can u disscuss this with your own doctor and see what he says about the situation??
i was on codeine while i was pregnant (legitimate reasons) and just to let u know my doctor assured me this was safe although i was only taking pure codeine phosphate twice a day i never went over at that time!
if your sis is ready to stop she will it wil be mega hard and she will need all the support she can get the problem being now that she is over using and pregnant is seriously dangerous please phone a drugs helpline or talk to your doc mum anyone who can help dont leave it like this

[vicki595]

and to avig :   I hope we hear soon as well.  This has really gotten under my skin and obviously everyone elses.  A lot of really caring folks in this forum.  :)         xo V.

[avisg]

yes thats what I thought I dont think she can contact the doctor becuse of hippa but I am not sure .Hopefully we will get an update soon

[madtram]

Vicki, I think following her to the appointment & ambushing the Ob/gyn is a great idea, i didn't think of that.