i need help with my mom

[mom2bee]

How do you convince someone to stop smoking crack?  Like she says she wants to, but she's stealing from her family to support her habit.  She used to be my best friend and now its like I don't even know her! I don't know what to do anymore.

[tschock]

You could try an incentive program like I did with my hubby.
He wanted a baby and had to clean up and stay clean for at least 2 years before I would even consider trying.
This is something that he had desperately wanted his entire adult life. Of course,he also admitted to having a problem and he came to me for help.
The next time she says that she wants help ask her if she is serious. If she says yes then tell her that she has to do things your way. Do as the people above suggested.
If there is something that she has always wanted tell her (if it's within reason) that you will help her to get whatever it is that she really wants...a trip,a car,a facial...whatever it is.
Just make sure that you tell her that she has to stay clean for a certain amount of time though in order to get it.
Hubby had been clean for a month when he decided that he deserved to have his wish come true...sometimes they can be very conniving.
As for the stealing...my little brother was hooked on speed and stole things from us all the time...the playstation,t.v, check books, etc.
We finally had to tell him that he was no longer welcome in our home...it's called tough love. We called the police on him in the past...he went to jail for a few years for breaking into washing machines to support his habit.
Glad to say that he is now clean as well. He did it for his young son...and of course himself.

[Beccabeccalynn]

I don't think there is way way to make or force her to stop, I know that no one could force me to stop. You mom has to be willing to get or ask for
help . You can tell her that if she wants to get clean you will be waiting to offer support. You need to help yourself , have you heard of ALANON? It is for family and friends of addicts and alcholics. A support group with tools for you to not let this affect your life it's free look online or in the phone book. Really helps
you can't change
your mom but you can change how
you deal with her behaviors
good luck
Becca

[ihatemakinganickname]

I am so sorry you are dealing with this. Both of my parents are addicts. I have tried to help in so many ways. I don't know if getting ahold of her dealers is such a great idea. It depends. Because some of those people may be ruthless and feel threatened by you saying something and be afraid of you going to the police, which could potentially put you in danger. You should take her phone away. Give her an intervention or something. Get all your family together and you all need to let her know she needs help. You are not against her you are there to help her.Don't let her steal from you. Don't keep cash around. Hide your plastic somewhere she won't think to look for it. Try to set up help and you will probably need her consent for help or they may not do anything. Good luck

[mom2bee]

Its really hard cause most of her supporters are elderly.  She takes care of 4 elderly people, besides 2 kids.  She's a functioning drug addict, which makes her feel like she needs it to get through they day.

[122 Tactical Fighter Group]

You need to seperate her from her sources and influences..........when she says she wants to quit have her erase any numbers on her phone for connections..........Take it upon yourself to call as many suppliers as you know and tell them she is sick (no lie)  tell them they arent welcome anylonger and oif they sell to het outside th house you will have to involve EMT's...........use your head - maybe get the whole family behind you wehn she expresses that desire to quit......................crack is a hard one mentally - - start looking into aftercare along the lines of NA/AA or smart recovery - lots of choices.....try and get her to a meeting even if she i still using.....that will be okay and there will be much experience around you and her.    For yourself - - at least a couple Al-Anon meetings (for family members)  to let you get a better idea of where you stsand. And for support. Keep posting here with questions and support. Best of luck.