Need advise

[KAH98]

Both me and my wife are subscribed OXY I take 30mg 2x day and she 60mg 2xday. However I take 1 or none my wife will take 4 up to 6 a day. My problem is that she will take her monthly dose in about a week or two and then she will take mine. She does not work infact she does nothing. clean house, cook or take care of  the pets. me and my daughter do it all while she sits on the couch and claims her back hurts but, will get up and go places when it is covenant for her. She get extremely upset with me if I dont give her my meds she will tell me she takes them for pain and that I dont need mine and to give them to her. she blames me if the Dr says no to early refill for her. Infact she has been Dr shopping for awhile now. I told her that I dont want to take them anymore and that i am going to aks the Dr for an alternative. she got upset and told me that I need to continue to get them so I can give her my meds and the only reason i am doing this is because i like to see her in pain. I know I shouldnt but it is easier to just give my meds to her and not fight or be kicked out of my house. This has been going on for awhile and I am afraid she is going to O-D if she continues. I want to help her but I need to let her think this is her ideal not mine to avoid any further fighting. does anyone have any helpful advise on how to achieve this situation. thanks for the help.

[KAH98]

Thank you all for the advice. I get really confused sometimes. some days she is really good about her meds and others are a nightmare. She saw her Dr and they gave her enough Meds to last for 10 days until she goes to her Pain Clinic of course thay see want is happening and are trying to get her on something else besides Oxy. She claims nothing else work but the Oxy which is BS. However this is my fault for what ever reasons and I have already been given a warning order that I will need to provide her with oxy to get her through the rest of the month. After she takes all my meds she wants me to go to my docter and get an early refill she claim that they will cause I have never had any problems  with running out early she will even instruct me on what and how to say this to the dr so i get them. when I tell her no I am not doing this and we just need to suck it up until we get meds the cycle begins on how I dont care about her and how i do this just to see her in pain and that it is a good ideal if i just dont come home cause I am nothing but a cruel person and on and on. So anyways I will post what happens I expect it to be pretty calm for about 4 days until she runs out, but I will stick to my guns and say no maybe this will open her eyes to just how bad her problem is.
again thanks for everyones advice

[avisg]

Sorry I hit the bottom before I was done .Stay strong let her know you know she has a problem .I am not saying she does not have pain many of us got addicted because of chronic pain.When she first stop taking them its going to seem worse but it does get better .I would also look into alanon they would help you alot and they will really help with the enabling factor .Continue to post we will help you threw this and her If she decided she want help as well.

[avisg]

I am glad that you made a new post .I have to say a agree with gizzy I think she is in total deinle I dont think an intervention would do any good at this point she does not think she has a problem.What you can do is do everything you can to make it as hard as possable for her to use .It not going to be easy she is going to cry and beg and menipualte you .You will have to be strong .The doctor shopping is illgeal and it could end up putting her in a very bad postion

[gizzy32]

I am sorry your going through this. It sounds like your wife is in complete denial, but still no excuse for what she is doing. It sounds like you are gonna have to step up here and give tough love and stop enabling her addiction too. You should not be kicked out cause of her addiction? Dr shopping is so wrong so she better be careful. Like mentioned above, sometimes an intervention can help open someones eyes when they are not ready to quit, it's always worth a shot. I hope she wakes up and see's the light. I wish you both the best.

[KAH98]

Thanks
everything you said is correct and I know it. The problem is she doesnt see herself as an addict (but she is). If I try to bring any of this up it ends up in a fight with me being kicked out of the house for a few days.I will continue fighting the fight with her maybe an intervention is the way to go. I appriciate your advise. Thanks

[GA Guy]

I suspect that she's an opiate addict in the middle of active addiction. The doctor shopping is just one of the stupid things we do when in the middle of active addiction. She needs professional help and fast before this ruins her and your lives. First of all, the doctor shopping is extremely illegal, especially with Schedule II narcotics. You could possibly get into trouble as well for giving her your medication. Even though she's prescribed the same drug, you're diverting your medications. You need to decide how much of a stand you're willing to make. It's going to get much more serious faster than it will get better. I have seen this movie before (I'm the star) and it doesn't end well. You can try to stage an intervention to get her into rehab. Many rehab facilities can help you with this. There are right ways to do interventions. Doing one wrong will have little or no effect. You must be willing to make threats that you will not enable her any more, and be prepared to keep up to the threats. It's painful, but very well could save her life. God bless, my prayers are with you and your family.